Jay Shetty

And so until you've actually lived life and experienced different facets of their life, let's not start building a life with someone that we don't know anything about their life.

And so until you've actually lived life and experienced different facets of their life, let's not start building a life with someone that we don't know anything about their life.

and I'm so glad you remembered that and it resonated with you. I'm not saying you're sitting there either judging them as well and going, wait a minute, are they trustworthy? It's not either or. And the reason I say that is because I think we give away trust too easily. If you've not seen someone in multiple moods, And when you're in multiple moods, how can you trust them?

and I'm so glad you remembered that and it resonated with you. I'm not saying you're sitting there either judging them as well and going, wait a minute, are they trustworthy? It's not either or. And the reason I say that is because I think we give away trust too easily. If you've not seen someone in multiple moods, And when you're in multiple moods, how can you trust them?

Because you don't know how they're going to respond to you being a certain way. So you can't trust them in that specific experience. And so your trust is very broad and overarching. And I think at one point, we just have to stop breaking our own heart because we don't fall in love with the person. We fall in love with who we expect them to be. We don't fall in love with the person that they are.

Because you don't know how they're going to respond to you being a certain way. So you can't trust them in that specific experience. And so your trust is very broad and overarching. And I think at one point, we just have to stop breaking our own heart because we don't fall in love with the person. We fall in love with who we expect them to be. We don't fall in love with the person that they are.

We fall in love with the potential that we see for them. We don't fall in love with the acts that they show us. We fall in love with the dreams that we hope they're gonna help us build. And so our constant reality is being lived in our head. And now you're not living in reality. You're living in your mind. And then that person doesn't live up to the picture in your mind.

We fall in love with the potential that we see for them. We don't fall in love with the acts that they show us. We fall in love with the dreams that we hope they're gonna help us build. And so our constant reality is being lived in our head. And now you're not living in reality. You're living in your mind. And then that person doesn't live up to the picture in your mind.

They're living in the real world and now they hurt you. And so we break our own hearts because we don't allow that person to earn our trust. We break our own hearts because we don't, let them prove themselves in different experiences and scenarios. And we break our own heart because we imagined who they were before they showed us they were.

They're living in the real world and now they hurt you. And so we break our own hearts because we don't allow that person to earn our trust. We break our own hearts because we don't, let them prove themselves in different experiences and scenarios. And we break our own heart because we imagined who they were before they showed us they were.

And so we're constantly, we're just constantly breaking our own hearts because You just don't know how someone's going to do something until you see them do it.

And so we're constantly, we're just constantly breaking our own hearts because You just don't know how someone's going to do something until you see them do it.

I think the first thing you have to understand is you can't fix anyone, right? You can't fix someone else, but you can break yourself in the process. You can't fix someone else, but you can waste a lot of years believing that you can. And you can't fix anyone, but you can convince yourself that it's your responsibility. So I think those are the three things we do.

I think the first thing you have to understand is you can't fix anyone, right? You can't fix someone else, but you can break yourself in the process. You can't fix someone else, but you can waste a lot of years believing that you can. And you can't fix anyone, but you can convince yourself that it's your responsibility. So I think those are the three things we do.

We convince ourself it's our responsibility, we convince ourself it's only a matter of time, and we convince ourself I'm ready to do anything it takes to fix them. Because guess what, we believe if we fight hard enough, I can make the wrong person the right person. Why do we do it? Number one, it validates us. It gives our life meaning and value.

We convince ourself it's our responsibility, we convince ourself it's only a matter of time, and we convince ourself I'm ready to do anything it takes to fix them. Because guess what, we believe if we fight hard enough, I can make the wrong person the right person. Why do we do it? Number one, it validates us. It gives our life meaning and value.

We have a role to play and we believe we have a target to hit. If we can successfully make this person fixed, we did something amazing. It's actually about us. The second reason is we don't want to be with a loser. by what we think is a loser. We don't want to be with someone because that now brings down our value.

We have a role to play and we believe we have a target to hit. If we can successfully make this person fixed, we did something amazing. It's actually about us. The second reason is we don't want to be with a loser. by what we think is a loser. We don't want to be with someone because that now brings down our value.

We now feel, well, if I'm with someone who doesn't sort themselves out, then everyone else is going to think that I have no value. So now again, thinking about our value again, we're actually not thinking about them. And third, if we're truly compassionate and altruistic and really caring about them, we genuinely see their potential.

We now feel, well, if I'm with someone who doesn't sort themselves out, then everyone else is going to think that I have no value. So now again, thinking about our value again, we're actually not thinking about them. And third, if we're truly compassionate and altruistic and really caring about them, we genuinely see their potential.