Jessica Lanyadoo

And then you'll renegotiate after that point.

And the other thing I'm seeing is talk to him about what I'm bringing up here is that there's like a physicality of support that you're really going to need from him where he sees you getting overwhelmed.

Does he know how to recognize when you get overwhelmed?

Uh, that's a no.

That's a no.

Do you have to think that hard?

Uh-uh, girl.

Okay, so you hide it from him.

So maybe something to talk to him about is like, maybe you need to say like, I need to tap out.

Or like come up with like a quick, easy thing to say where it's like you just need him to take the baby and not ask questions because you're like kind of melting down because you're kind of over.

You're like hitting a point of overwhelm.

And maybe it's just like you're having a shame spike and you just need him to take the kid for fucking five minutes.

You go to the bathroom, you breathe through it.

You like, you know, wait.

But it's like Herculean efforts are hard to do with a screamy baby.

Right.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Parenting is hard.

Don't you dare be mad at yourself for struggling with parenting because literally everybody struggles with parenting.