Jillian Turecki
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1,450 appearances
11 recordings
9 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Apr 2025
Jillian Turecki’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It's available for, I mean, I don't even know if I say available for pre-order, but you can get it literally anywhere. Your local bookstore, Amazon, you can get it on Audible. So honestly, you just go to I think that you'll put a link it out and there's lots of different places where you can get the book from. Did you record the audio version? By the time this comes out? Yes. I love that.
I love when the author does the actual audio.
I I'm doing the actual one for sure. So if you are someone who would prefer to listen to my voice or you're someone who likes to listen to books while you're on the go, then we'll have that.
Oh, thank you so much. So yes, follow me on Instagram at Jillian Tarecki. I'm also on TikTok and threads and whatnot, but I'm the most active on Instagram. And I have a membership, a relationship school for women called The Conscious Woman, a bunch of courses. So you can just find that on my site, JillianTarecki.com. And Of course, my book and my podcast, Jillian on Love.
Okay, so when someone is invested in you, like if you're starting to see someone, they actually are interested in you as a person. They want to know your story. They want to know the things that make you happy. They want to know the things that make you sad. And they are carving out space in their life for you. Versus someone who's always busy,
not really interested in getting to know you on a deeper level, not really wanting to know your story, not wanting to, not making time to spend time with you. You know, time is such a precious, precious, precious resource for all of us. And most of the time, you know, like if we're not making time for someone, we're not that interested.
You know, I guess sometimes it's that someone really is busy. But anything that you really want, anything that you really want to know, anything that you really want to acquire, anything that you want to build something with, you're going to make the time. So it's investing time, it's investing energy, and someone really wanting to know you. They're asking questions.
They want to know about your childhood. They want to know about your hobbies. They want, it's not just, oh, let me vet you to see if you're the right person for me. It's like, I'm actually very interested in you. And that's, I mean, that's attraction. And when we're attracted to someone, we want to do that.
And then when we start to develop an emotional bond with someone, we want to know even more. And there are some people who are just not investing at the level that you are, you know, they're not putting in.
So another part of this is, so I was speaking a little bit more to like the beginning stages, but then when things get your, it's like, okay, you're in a really, you're quote unquote in a relationship. You're not taking the time to work on what needs to be worked on inside of yourself and in the relationship to make the relationship wonderful.
And because it really, a relationship is something that is built and it's only as healthy as the two people are behaving in it. So you can't, I think that one of the biggest myths out there is, well, a relationship should just be easy. And I think that there's a fine line. You have to know where you draw the line when something is just too hard.
But easy? First of all, if relationships were just easy, we would be really bored. We need a little friction. We need friction to grow. We need friction to learn more about ourselves and to learn more about the other person.
And so there are people who don't understand, lots of people, many, many people, because we're not really taught this unless we're modeled this by our parents, that your relationship is really dependent on what you put into it. It really is. And so if someone is not investing, They're not putting in the work to make it great. They're not going out of their way to be a great partner.
They're not going out of their way to meet your needs. They're not going out of their way to communicate what their needs are. And, you know, maybe that person just thinks, well, I can be in the relationship and just coast. And that's very frustrating for someone whose understanding of relationship is, no, we got to put the work in.
And so you have one person who thinks a relationship should be easy. Another person whose belief system includes, no, a relationship is what we make of it. And then you got a recipe for a clash, you know? And so you can't build it with someone like that.
How healthy they're behaving in it. Yeah, absolutely.
Let's see, let's take the whole hour, you know, right?
Oh, wow, we got, these are two big subjects. Okay, so here's a reality to life and love. When we start seeing someone and we're attracted to them and they're attracted to us and we're excited about them, We want to seduce them.
And this isn't necessarily, sure there are the people out there who are manipulative and they're gonna do all these games and they're wearing a thick mask and then when the mask comes off, they're a real son of a and they're really, really mean. Those people exist and they're incredibly toxic. But let's just talk about all the rest of us, right?
So we put our best foot forward because we're trying to, we're marketing. We're in sales and marketing. It's like, how can I present myself to be the best person I can be? And a lot of times, unless it's someone very manipulative, A lot of times the person who we are in the beginning is actually who we are when we are unburdened by stress, monotony, negative moods.
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