John Delony

What most people do is they spend all their energy trying to either get back what was or prepare for what might be someday.

And they never just set in the middle and say that we get to build this life right now.

And so I'll recommend with you what I recommend with everybody.

I do this in my house.

This is how much I believe in it is calling that out.

The marriage we had is over.

We get to decide who we are going to be together when it comes to money, to time, more importantly, to values, to what scares us, to what excites us.

We get to create that.

We get to create our new dating life, our new romance life, our new sex life, our new sleep routines.

We get to do all of that.

And then we get to decide how we are going to parent this kid.

And when you do it that way, think of it like if you're building a new house, the contractor sits down with a couple.

I have a buddy who had a contractor sit down.

They actually sent the husband and the wife a quiz, like an online quiz.

And they filled it all out.

And then they said like, boom, this is the house we think is for you.

And they were dead on.

It was awesome.

But it's like, what do you value?

What do I value?