Julia Dhar

And it sounds really basic, but one of the things that I love about it is it's not just, oh, there's a different plan, but that idea that we're kind of constantly on branching pathways and you say to yourself, oh,

Like there were always a different set of choices.

Like there were always, this was always a choose your own adventure.

I could always have made different choices.

And this is just one of those moments where I can do that.

I feel like this is what we keep coming back to.

It's like you're in charge of your reality.

Prove it to yourself that you can be in charge.

Exactly.

And that no one, no one cares more than you.

Like no one will care more than you.

But I hope the other really liberating thought, and sometimes this comes with time and sometimes you just have the opportunity to learn it, is...

No one cares.

And there's a really good version of that, which is you can do whatever you want because most people are just not paying that much attention.

Oh, it's the best.

Yeah.

People are thinking an awful lot about themselves and how they're showing up in that situation and aren't finding whatever you are doing particularly memorable and in the best possible way, perhaps not even that interesting to them.

I feel like that is a completely different conversation.

But once you realize that, it's like, oh, wow, so much more about the world is possible to me when I don't have this entire part of my brain thinking about how somebody else is perceiving me.

It's a huge freedom, I think.