Julie Smith

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149 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 28 Jun

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Great Company with Jamie Laing · DR JULE: The Relationship Advice You NEED to Hear | GREAT MOMENTS · 28 Jun 2026 podcast

And that does nothing for your relationship.

what they get is a sense of how he was willing to completely annihilate my self-esteem in order to feel like he was right.

Or he was willing to really break my heart in order to win this argument.

And that stays and that kind of chips away at trust and the ability to connect in the future.

So when we sort of enter into those difficult conversations or arguments,

with the set idea that, okay, I married this person.

I want to have a really good relationship, improving relationship with them in the years ahead.

Actually, our goal here is resolution and finding a compromise.

And that's going to be really difficult because I'm really angry at this person and they've done this and they've done that.

But let's, you know, and also kind of seeing it as it's you two against the problem rather than you against them.

It just, it changes the dynamic of how you're going to approach the problem.

Yeah.

And yet it's so natural, such a natural response to feeling like you're being attacked is the defenses go up, right?

And that's where when we have an issue with the other person, going in with the criticism or the attack, or if any of that is laced with contempt, like a, you always do this, or you never do that, then the other person immediately, the emotional shutters come down because you're being personally, your character is being attacked.

And so you're just in defense mode because it triggers shame.

And when you feel shame, you are just defending yourself.

You are just protecting yourself.

You can't really do anything else.

It's on impulse.

So that's when you kind of, then you go back and bite back and then they bite back.

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