Julie Smith

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149 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 28 Jun

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But then when you're in it in real life, you start to go, oh, I know where I am on the cycle.

We've done this 10 times.

I know.

And then what you get is this moment of opportunity to either

go around the same cycle again or do something different because you would have talked about what the exit is and where you break it.

Sometimes you'll go around the same old cycle again.

But that bit's hard.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

So you go with the familiar rather than something new or different that feels unpredictable, even if the familiar is destructive.

It's a coping strategy that probably worked back then.

So something you did as a child, you know, if someone who has an avoidant kind of style, you know, avoidant attachment style.

Which is?

So if you're an avoidant attachment style, you maybe struggle with intimacy or you pull back and withdraw from people.

Right.

And it might be that in your childhood, you didn't have physical affection or your caregivers were unpredictable.

And so actually, it felt unsafe to be very close to them.

And so it felt safer to pull back.

And then in adulthood, that might be kind of difficult for your relationships.

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