Julie Wright
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141 appearances
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first heard Mar 2019
last heard Mar 2019
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And it's very healing to start with a an empathic step because now your child feels like you're on their side and you're gonna help them.
You're not there to judge them or jump to a solution.
So it's I mean we could talk about the A step for this entire interview.
It's it's incredibly powerful when we listen to our children, they're much more likely to listen to us and they're also much more likely to feel close to us.
It it also makes you a the safe person to come to with their feelings if you're either judging
dismissing or overly
assuaging their feelings.
They're getting the message over time that you don't want to hear their big feelings.
And this is exactly the opposite of what what we want when our kids grow up.
And our teenagers are and are having much more difficult issues, we really want them to be able to talk to us and know that we're a safe person to talk to about their problems.
Oh, I think absolutely.
Uh as much as the ALP step is easy to remember and you know it's only three steps, it's not
And it it sometimes feels like a magic trick, but it's not a magic trick and something that you can just say, Oh, I do this now.
It's so easy.
You know, it's it's really a mindfulness practice.
It really takes time and it takes a lot of kindness toward yourself and a lot of patience and a lot of
going back and saying to your child, you know, can I try that again?
or um
doing doing some repair when we need to and being very very um aware that this is a quest we're on a quest i always think of it as this high mountain peak that so high that we'll never actually climb all the way up to it but we're just always taking a few more steps higher toward it it's very very difficult and um you will forget over and over again to do the A step.
But I I think time is your friend for for yourself, perhaps as a parent, the big reactive emotion that you have will pass, will start to wane over time.
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