Kristin Neff

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 231: Author & Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on the Power of Being Kind to Yourself · 19 Oct 2020 podcast

You know, and really we're really there for ourselves in in terms of what's happening for us.

Uh then it gives us actually more resources to cope.

And by the way, you know, sometimes it's not like we just want to accept our suffering.

Sometimes we need to take action, right?

So it there's like a yin and a yang element to self-compassion.

The yin is acceptance and we accept that this is how things are.

We accept ourselves as we are.

But there's also a a young element, which is we you know, which is kind of in Chinese philosophy, Yang is more of the the powerful, um forceful energy.

Sometimes we need to change how things are, at least try our best to do it.

You know, so maybe we need to advocate for our child in school, or you know, you need to fight for social justice, or you you need to try to make it or you need to change yourself in some way if you're doing some behavior that's unhealthy.

So it's both, it's yin and it's yang, but ironically it's by accepting ourselves and accepting the fact that it hurts.

And accepting the fact that we're flawed human beings, that actually gives us the emotional resources needed to try to change things.

So the two go hand in hand.

They aren't they aren't opposite.

We'll be right back after

And so when we talk about being with our suffering, which is like the yin type of self-compassion, it it takes there's actually three elements to self-compassion and it's useful to know because it they're almost like a recipe book for what we need to add to the ingredients just so that we can have this this stable self-compassionate mindset.

So the first is mindfulness, which is the ability to see what's happening, to be present with what's happening.

It's like if we ignore our pain or we stuff it down, or conversely, if we just like run away with it and we'll get lost in it, then we have no perspective.

The persp we don't have the perspective needed to turn toward yourself and say, wow, you're really having a hard time.

You know, what can I do to help?

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