Kyle MacDonald

And it's OK on those days where we don't to actually just not.

And that might sometimes be a matter of days.

It might sometimes be a matter of weeks if we've got a lot on our plate.

So it is about bringing that horizon in.

And actually, if all we're doing is going to work and engaging with our own family and that's all we can cope with, don't be critical with yourself.

That's OK.

And to build in flexibility.

So recognising when we do have the capacity, it might be useful to engage a little bit more, particularly if the petrol prices are banging on the door or we're having to rebalance the budget because of reality.

But I think it is okay to protect ourselves.

And then I think the other thing is sort of figuring out in an honest way whether you're the kind of person who benefits from more information or less.

So I tend to benefit from more information.

I listen to podcasts.

I try and stay abreast of what's happening in the world because it helps me feel like I'm in control of the things that I need to understand, like

petrol prices like how to balance the budget and all those things but some people don't find that and so being honest with ourselves about what's helpful and what isn't as opposed to what other people might tell us is helpful for us or how we might feel what we might get judged if we're not abreast of the you know latest tweet from donald trump for instance

I think there's quite a lot of evidence that over-engaging in polarised debates, unfortunately, on social media, and this is one of my sort of bugbears about the so-called youth social media debate, is we should be having a general social media debate.

It's very easy to point at the kids and say it's affecting them.

But actually, what I often say to parents is, can you just sort of address your own phone use first?

Because kids follow.

And recognizing that, again, it comes back to that where we started from about compassion and recognizing that actually we probably all need to be better at engaging with people who see the world differently.

And social media isn't going to help.