Lisa Bilyeu

And it's okay to say that.

And then secondly, what is actually holding you back from getting started?

And so for me, it was believing that I had the right to say I was unhappy.

But it becomes these stepping stones.

And I think what people do is they want the confidence to get started.

Now, that was the first step.

Then just talking through with Tom, my husband, who I was taking care of for eight years, I had to make that change.

And what you don't realize is the confidence is the byproduct of getting started.

And so how do I tell the love of my life that I no longer want to take care of him?

And so if you recognize that, now what you do, one of my favorite movies is The Karate Kid, the wax on, wax off.

no longer want to cook for him.

I no longer want to clean for him, but I need him to still know that I love him.

So what you do is you just practice.

You just keep waxing on and waxing off.

So the transition was step-by-step.

It was believing A, that I am worthy enough to say that I'm unhappy.

Once you do that, as you're building your skill sets, you then become competent and

And it's your competence that then leads to your confidence.

It's then coming up with ways to communicate with the people around you that you're going to change because not everyone's going to be happy.

But if you're waiting for confidence to get started, you're in for a rude awakening that you will never actually get started.