Loch Kelly
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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Yeah, and just one more thing about that is that there's what I call effortless focus, which is basically when you open, again, I won't do this glimpse because it's visual, because it makes you open your awareness up. But when you open to be aware from a more awareness-based rather than thought-based knowing that's embodied and has a feeling of unity, you are no longer using attention to focus.
You're using local awareness, which is part of the field. So you're literally focusing from this mind, which isn't moving. So I had or have some ADHD as a kid. So I just don't use the ADHD mind. And if the ADHD mind comes up and goes like, I want to help. It's like, you don't have to help with this. You can help with some other stuff later on. Okay, good. I'll go play. Absolutely.
But the focus is literally an effortless focus because you're focusing from the field that feels like the field of awareness, aliveness. So when you try to meditate, the classic thing is the first stage is often watch your breath when your mind wanders, bring it back. So the wandering mind is the small mind and the chattering mind. You can be aware of that as an object.
when it's no longer the subject, it's like, you know, a shoulder that has a lot of activity in it, maybe even a little pain. So this may have a little pain, this have a little activity is trying to do this. It has a habit of trying to focus. And it's like, don't, we don't need to focus from there. Let's focus from this field.
of this awareness-based mind, and it's amazing that, you know, again, that's what people in flow, this guy Csikszentmihalyi, right, who did this study of flow, said there are seven qualities of flow, which you're totally in the present, you're able to, you know the activity you're doing, but you have a sense of joy or ecstasy, and the task itself is enough, and you feel there's a timelessness,
and a feeling that you've gone beyond your ego. And there's a feeling of interconnection with this field. And that's like people in any flow playing music or sports, or even studied middle managers who were in flow.
Yeah, and one of the IFS maps that I've added, Dick Schwartz, who created it, and I have co-taught together on things like accessing self, because he's mapped out parts so brilliantly and exquisitely, and I've kind of mapped out self or true nature or awareness. And so the key is that most therapies do good therapy and good work from a compassionate part. So bring compassion to the part.
But that's like small C, compassion. And you only know that when you upgrade to this awake, aware, heart, mind that is who you are, is greater than yourself, and essentially who you are, that then isn't looking from outside two apart as if there's two. It's like ocean is now, oh, we're the same. Oh, same, same. And you're part of me, and I'm part of you, and I see you're trying to –
you know, help and I can see your struggles and do you feel me? Do you feel I'm with you? And I'm the one you've been looking for. You know, we're both looking for love and connection and you've been trying and you've been stuck in this kind of time prison, which is, you know, like a,
Childhood view of the world. And that you don't even know it when it comes up, it just sees the world that way. And it feels that, you know, there's threat around based on what was going on there, but it projects it onto this.
So, you know, that was a great healing for me is working with these parts and finding, you know, the deeper shame-based parts or ones that were younger or some pre-verbal ones where you can't even They have no words. They're just like a mother tiger in the root. You know, it was just like, argh.
It was just like, okay, I got you. Yeah, but I'm stronger than you. And we're not going to let anyone mess with us.
Yes, yeah.
Yeah, thank you. Me too. It's great to kind of like immediately connect and, you know, have our mutual appreciation of the work because, you know, I appreciate you and your willingness to share with people, to be that beacon and to willing to go into the darkness too with your beacon with people because that's the harder work. And yet if you have the light, it's like, it's okay. It's okay.
It's going to be okay. We're going to be okay.
Yeah. And just to say that how I discovered it, I came back from doing this kind of meeting this Dzogchen teacher that I had done long retreats and all of a sudden within three minutes, he kind of showed me my own mind or just pointed it out. And I was like, what am I going to do with this? You know, like, well, probably, you know, just whatever it is, that's what I'm going to do with my life.
And then I came back and finished this joint degree with clinical social work and master in divinity in New York and went into outpatient psych. And all of a sudden I was bringing it up with people who were, you know, coming out of psychiatric hospitals, halfway houses and stuff. And one person,
a woman who was, you know, I had known and she'd been in and out of hospital and she'd said, you know, there's a part of me that's, you know, today I need to, you're the only one I'll tell that I feels like hurting myself. And I said, okay. And I said, and are there any other parts around? And she went, well, yeah, there's another part that, you know, wants to figure this out and make it okay.
And I just said, well, who's aware of both those parts? And she said, me, me. I said, what do you mean me? She goes, I don't know me, you know, like it's me. I'm aware of those, those, those parts. And she just like, Well, like, right. I know me, but how come I forgot me?
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