Mariel Segarra

And I want to just start by saying the people pleaser in me sees the people pleaser in you.

Just say something I learned recently from our episode on the book Drained from a professor named Leah Rupaner is that sometimes when it comes to the mental load, sometimes you need to separate out what is required of you, what you're taking on out of obligation and what you actually want to be doing.

Like, does it really have to be on you to take on this work besties load, you know?

Do you have to raise your hand every time?

Does anyone have to raise their hand for this work, you know?

Are your deadlines real deadlines?

These are the things that I'm thinking of.

What about you guys?

Right.

That's exactly what I said.

It sounds like you need to talk to your boss about this.

It sounds like you have tried before, and it has been successful.

It doesn't have to stop at one conversation, right?

So it seems like it's time to ask your boss for a meeting.

Give yourself time to think about what you want to say.

And when you do that, data is your friend.

Keep your receipts if you haven't already.

Arm yourself with information.

If you feel like you've been doing a lot of the work for a lot of the time and you're okay with that, then maybe it's time for a new role, a new title, more money so that you can feel less resentful.

Let this be your flag.