Matthew Hussey

And it might be worth it for its own sake.

There might be something about this process of connecting with other human beings that is worth it for its own sake.

I'm going to say we overrate the wrong kind of chemistry.

Okay.

And we underrate the right kind of chemistry.

I think that we get chemistry mixed up with a whole bunch of other things that aren't really chemistry.

Like someone doesn't text you back, and you get a feeling in your stomach, and you go, this must matter a lot because it's making me feel awful.

Why do I feel like crap right now that this person isn't texting me?

I feel afraid.

I don't feel good enough.

And then hours later, after waiting and waiting and waiting, they text you, and all of a sudden you go, I'm okay.

I'm okay.

Oh, that feels so good.

And you go, I really like this person.

It had nothing to do with the person.

It had everything to do with their absence.

Are you in love with their presence or are you in love with their absence?

You know, we get addicted to these cycles with people and it's kind of what we know.

And it's very, very dangerous.

It happens to us all the time and it happens very quickly and very subtly and very sneakily.