Matthew Hussey

I'm having to win you over.

I'm having to find a way to access safety.

And you want to know something really messed up?

There were relationships that you were in where you felt an insane amount of chemistry, or what you called chemistry, for a while.

Because I'll always say to people, be very careful if you had an amazing weekend with someone and you felt like there was so much chemistry.

It was a weekend.

So don't go for the rest of your life comparing the people you date in a genuine progression and evolution to someone you had a holiday romance with for two weeks, going, why can't I just feel that?

You felt that because they went home

It's like fireworks.

Fireworks are the best thing ever for about 10 minutes.

The only reason fireworks are so magical is because they end.

If fireworks didn't end, they'd be the most annoying thing in the world.

When you go to Disney or wherever and you see fireworks, they know there's an optimal amount of time to show them for to create that magic.

And there's a moment to stop them so that you leave on that high.

A lot of us have done that in our dating lives, and now we're comparing everyone to the fireworks we had once with someone that only created them because they left, because it ended.

Now, some of you, as I was about to say, have been in relationships where the chemistry was there for a long time.

But,

Be very careful about the relationships where you felt like you were never really safe in the relationship.

Because there are relationships where the chemistry ends because the chase never really ends.

you never really feel like you had the person, even when you were with them.