Mel Robbins

So that's one hour a day.

strangers that you're chit-chatting with and complimenting.

It can be with people that you're close to.

It can be lunch with colleagues.

It could be chatting after or before a meeting, something that's a little bit more, it's a phone call with a friend.

It could be a phone call.

Absolutely.

What about texting back and forth with somebody?

I mean, you said no.

I literally like kind of rolled her eyes at me, everybody.

Okay, so voice is important.

So either you need to be speaking or the other people need to be speaking for this to count.

We can do that.

Thank you.

That was so helpful.

I love a framework.

So based on 15 years of research as a social scientist, you say that there are four different friendship styles.

What are they?

So why does it matter to know what your friendship style is, whether you're a wallflower, which I just realized one of my closest friends is, whether you're a butterfly, which I realized another one of my friends is, or whether you are the firefly or you are a deep connection person.

How do you keep closeness with a friend when it's long distance?