Michael Chernow

But there's nothing you're going to be able to do to change your dad.

best advice I can give you is every time you know you're going to walk into a situation with him and it's not going to be fun, just have a saying in your head and say, bless you, change me.

And I was like, always say that, bless you, change me.

And I think that that is like, if you can live your life like that, where like, you're not going to allow someone's

way of living, someone's thought processes, someone's actions, someone's thoughts to impact you.

And you're also not going to try to project the way you live onto others and get disappointed because chances of them taking the bait on that are slim.

If you can say, you know what?

Bless you.

If I want to feel good in this situation, the one that's got to change is me.

And so I practice that with my mom.

You know, I'm not going to change her.

She's setting her way.

She is who she is.

And I love her.

If I want to be able to manage her, like where I don't get frustrated when we talked, the only person I got to change is me.

And so that's been powerful for me.

So I moved out.

I was crazy.

I was running the streets in New York, using drugs, selling drugs, getting into trouble, being a, I was just a, I wouldn't wish me on any parent.

I just wouldn't.