Nicole Jaques

It's undocumented.

And if we start documenting, if you made a list and made those lists become systems of everything you do in a month, okay, for your home, those systems become shared, right?

They're able to be talked about and shared amongst the family members.

And then the shared becomes sustainable and successful, right?

So I started thinking of, okay, well, I was really having trouble getting the kids out.

I'm going to give examples and then I'm going to ask you for something you need help with and we'll bounce it on and off of each other.

Okay.

So I was having a really difficult time getting my eight and 10 year old, which by the way, they can pack lunch at this point and they don't.

It's a whole nother topic.

Getting them out the door on time.

It was always kind of a struggle and or borderline.

One was going to have an emotional meltdown.

And I was like,

Dang it, like there's gotta be a better way.

My system is in place and I'm implementing it and I'm coming into a roadblock, but I don't view roadblocks

As failure, I don't have guilt over them.

Guilt is something somebody gives you that you can give back to that person.

And it may come from childhood trauma.

It may come from parenting, how you were parented.

It may come from spousal.