Nicole LePera, Ph.D.
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first heard Mar 2026
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And as she was getting up in age, right, it became very clear to me that I was having all these revelations, including how she parented me.
And, you know, because of many different reasons, she...
was unable to hear, to be present.
She was struggling with her own health and her own emotional issues.
So acceptance really begins when we first allow ourself to be present to what was.
Acceptance for me was a long-term process of me becoming aware that, hey, I didn't have a traditional trauma in the sense that
anything kind of overt happened, but my trauma existed in my mom's absence, right?
That lack of emotional attunement.
So it's a process of, right?
Not just saying, oh, well, that's how mom is and she's never gonna change.
Like I had to actually sit in then the grief, right?
of I had a loss, right?
This core attachment figure I did not have access to.
Some of us might even feel angry, right?
Because that's an unmet need.
I needed attunement and support and comfort and I did not get that.
And so it's the kind of the process of making space, right?
Once we gain awareness of what had happened, it's also the emotional presence to be with what had happened, to allow the grief, to allow the sadness, right?
And then for me to, right, acknowledge if you do have the parent that's just not going to change or they're older, it just like isn't going to be for you.
Then we flip the question from like, what do I need you to do different to how can I shift or change the dynamic?
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