Paul Eastwick
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1,562 appearances
7 recordings
3 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 24 May
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And so it isn't surprising that people feel a romantic connection to their therapist from time to time.
It is like in some ways you are play acting what it's like to initiate a relationship.
But again, this is like why therapy works and therapists are well trained to make sure that that like relational process serves the therapy and that it doesn't get in the way
of the therapy it's like one of the most complicated things that therapists have to navigate i'm not a therapist myself but you know i've known many who have gone through this this kind of training so so it happens a lot um but it's you know it's a risk factor that that can be um you know mitigated and contained paul do our parental preferences shape our mate choice
Oh, parental preference is like what our parents want for us?
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's interesting.
When you look cross-culturally, you definitely see that parents have varying levels of influence on who we pick as a partner.
Yeah.
you know i think there's a tendency like for folks like you know uh living in the west or the western world we tend to think like oh like how um odd is that that your parents would choose a partner for you but i think we have a misimpression of how this process really works because it's just that like in those cultures your parents are a more central part of your social network that's introducing you to people in the first place
And people still get to feel how they feel about a potential partner.
And people still get to veto partners that they don't really like in most cases.
So this is why if you look at cultures that have arranged marriages versus marriages of choice.
you don't really see much of a difference in how happy people are.
What does make people unhappy, though, is if they feel like they have no influence over who they chose as a partner.
That difference really does matter a lot.
But again, in places with arranged marriages, very commonly,
now that person let's call her Sarah she's looking at her husband Kevin and she hates Kevin right but she's keeping the family happy um what should what should Sarah do right now yeah this is it's tough it's really tough when you feel like the the social network is the thing that's keeping you in the relationship um this is often something that we we refer to in the science as the investments that you've made in the relationship and it
some ways it's not unlike the great sunk cost fallacy like you put so much into this relationship and you would lose all these things if the relationship were to end so you would lose parental approval but you might also lose things like a house and like access to kids so this is very real and very crucial and it's part of this idea that like what keeps a relationship going often for good or for ill is the history that's propping it up
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