Sadia Khan

Like it's not like as in, not in that way, but she's just an add on.

Whereas for men without that energy, she is the everything.

So that's why they get a little bit more attached.

Yeah.

Well, the green flags I talk about is the first thing is there has to be mutual attraction.

The foundation to any healthy relationship is mutual attraction.

If it's one way, she's more attracted to him or he's more attracted to her.

Unfortunately, it causes about power imbalance.

Attraction has far more of an implication on the relationship than we realize.

If one person is far more heavily attracted to the other or they're not attracted to each other at all, they'll either go into siblings where they're just kind of roommates or it will be really submissive because the person who wants the relationship more will be begging and clawing for love.

So mutual attraction is really important, which is why honesty is really important throughout your marriage.

So as you're losing attraction, you talk about it, you try and improve it, you do whatever it is.

You keep on top of yourself if you can, especially now where men have access to porn and all this stuff.

It's better to try and keep that intimacy as much as possible.

So always start with mutual attraction.

Second thing I would say is try and look for people who have good work ethic.

I know there's this big like thing that masculine men want a housewife and they want all of that.

My personal experience and working with so many clients and you have seen it even in my own life.

Back in the day, maybe not working was fine as women because we'd kept busy with our tribe of other housewives and we'd cook from scratch and we would be busy.

Now, if women don't have a work or a purpose, what happens is it's very easy to get depressed.