Sadia Khan

You're always scrolling.

You always feed negative media.

Life when you're not busy is a really ugly one now.

TV shows were a little bit better because at least you'd have to concentrate.

Now, just constant short form content with terrible messaging.

An unbusy life is really difficult.

And also your brain is not designed to be unbusy.

We're designed to be problem solving.

The more problem solving we are, the more happy we are.

There's no other solution to it.

So if she's just at home while you're just a high value man and bringing her everything, she will start to lose her purpose and she'll blame you for why she's depressed and the relationship will start to plummet.

So always choose people with good work ethic, men and women.

Men, it's a given.

You need a man with good work ethic, but I would say both people need good work ethic if you want a good foundation of a relationship.

The third thing I would say is try and look for people with similar families.

And I don't mean if you're dysfunctional, you need a dysfunctional one.

but they have some level of similarity in their upbringing.

The reason I say that is if someone's had really, really toxic upbringing and somebody's had a really healthy upbringing, the healthy person will talk to them in their healthy language and the toxic person will talk to them in their toxic language and they don't understand each other.

They're literally speaking a different language.

In good circumstances, a healthy person can make that a person who grew up toxic in a healthy environment, but it's a lot of work for them.