Shane Parrish

to how easily that situation gets resolved.

And another aspect of positioning, if you will, is just to bring it back to relationships.

Are you investing in that relationship on a regular basis?

And if you are investing in that relationship, it's like watering the grass.

And what do we know about watering the grass?

Well, if I water the grass every day with my partner and I spend time with them and I connect with them and I cuddle with them and I love them and I try to be the best partner that I can be,

Well, every day I'm watering that grass.

And so when we have one of these little, I want to call them disputes, but call them whatever you want, tiffs, then all of a sudden it just dissipates really quickly.

But if I'm not investing in that relationship, if I enter into that tiff, that disagreement in a bad position, if we both enter it in a bad position, well, now all of a sudden it starts to take on a lot more gravity.

It becomes a lot more serious and it doesn't dissipate.

And so we can think of watering the grass.

What happens when you water the grass and a spark falls on it?

Well, nothing.

It just goes out.

But if you don't water the grass, the grass gets dry.

And then what happens?

Well, any little spark is going to set that on fire.

And we can think about relationships that way.

Now, most people tackle that at the moment of how do we have a better conversation in that moment?

Like, how do you handle these moments better?