Stephan Speaks

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The School of Greatness · Safe Relationship Choices Often Lead to Unfulfillment · 31 Jan 2025 podcast

it's not as deep to where you feel like you'll be devastated by it. So, you're starting from a deficit as far as I'm not fully into this, I'm not fully into this guy but again, he may be good enough for me to work with and try to be with. But because you already have a built-in void so what happens is this, she chooses this man she's not really into him let's say she's not that attracted to him.

And it's not that he's not a good looking guy she's just not attracted to him that like that. Well, because you don't have that attraction you're not going to pour into him at the same level that he needs you to.

You won't be as intimate with him you may not talk to him the way that he wants to be talked to you're not going to give him the same energy that you would someone you're actually very much attracted to. Well, that void initially he may not catch on to that or let that bother him because if he is indeed

a man who is of a lower position than her or lower quality than her he may just be happy to have this woman oh my gosh I can't believe I have her so he's infatuated he's going in he's blinded by his desires for her but at some point the smoke clears And then he realizes wait a minute okay, I have her but I'm not being treated the way I want to be treated. I'm getting walked all over.

Exactly, it's all about her. Yes, I don't get the respect that I deserve here and here's what's crazy. When that woman dates that man who she's not really into like that and let's just say she dates down. Well, she just raised his stock to every other woman that's watching this. That's true. They're looking and they're saying how did he get her? What does he have? He must have something.

He must have something. Big pockets. Big something else. Big something else, yeah. So power something. Now these women want to find out.

Yes, and even if it's not of a lower quality if as a man you are seen with an attractive woman a high quality woman a desirable woman you become more desirable to other women. I've talked to friends where they've even gone to clubs they'll go there with a woman and they'll get more attention.

And when that woman walks away some of these women will try to slide in and slip in a number here and there. Why do women do this?

Well, so it starts with the fact that women have this perception that quality men are, they're not in abundance out here. They're scarce. Yes, they're very scarce. So, when you come across one or you think you come across one, a lot of them have the mentality of, oh, no, I have to try to get my foot in the door and see if I can get this for myself.

If they thought it was abundant out there, then they'd be less pressed to do that. But what happens if a guy, okay...

It depends. I think there are some women who convince themselves... There's plenty of women who have taken a man from a woman or who have accepted that man leaving one woman for her and to her, she's good. As long as she's getting what she needs, she's good. But I do think that in the back of their head, Once something starts to go wrong, that's when those thoughts start to creep in.

I wonder if he's talking to someone else. Why isn't he giving me the attention anymore? Exactly. And now, and I think it's even more likely that someone who knows about the situation will remind her, well, you got him this way, so you might lose him the same. And now the insecurities really start to kick in and it starts to become a huge problem.

I'm going to say spiritual attraction. More than sexual attraction. But I'm saying that with hesitancy. You're pausing. I'm not 100%. The only reason why I'm leaning towards spiritual is because I believe that women value intimacy, non-sexual intimacy way more than actual just raw sex, okay.

So, if you had door number one hugs, kisses, caresses, you know, being emotionally available, door number two just straight sex. Women are choosing, most women are choosing door number one, most men are choosing door number two.

And so, because of that value for the deeper levels of intimacy I feel like spiritual attraction kind of fortifies that whereas sexual attraction may not get them those things. So, that's why I would pick spiritual attraction.

I would say they would have to become their most confident, masculine self. whatever that looks like. It's going to look different for every guy but at the foundation of it there must be confidence in who he is and he must exude that masculine energy. Not saying there aren't men who can't get them a loving partner not being the most masculine dude, but

you have a better chance at achieving it when you can walk in your masculine energy that's the power of the man.

Well, I think lacking confidence it undermines the masculine energy. It's hard to be that masculine presence if you are lacking in self-esteem, lacking in self-respect. The things you're going to allow a woman to get away with is going to start to lose cause her to lose attraction for you.

So, it's almost like if you become her yes man a lot of women don't want a yes man most women don't want a yes man. It might sound good to some initially but over time she gets tired of the fact that you can't think for yourself that you aren't giving your own perspective that you aren't confident enough to stand in your own vision and your plan. So,

that immediately takes you out of your masculine energy because now you're trying to become so accommodating to the point that you've lost yourself in that process and that doesn't work well in the long term.

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