Stephan Speaks

Like, I would argue I don't even know what conversations you guys had but there's a very good chance that if I was there you were speaking as a man who wanted to accomplish things.

Like, I would argue I don't even know what conversations you guys had but there's a very good chance that if I was there you were speaking as a man who wanted to accomplish things.

So, she was just all right, I'm going to support that, I'm going to get behind you. That's very different from a woman saying to him like, for example, well, you could do this and you could become this. And it's like, okay, no, he has to want that. He has to have that vision. It's a great distinction. You see, and I think that's where people, you know, get tripped up

So, she was just all right, I'm going to support that, I'm going to get behind you. That's very different from a woman saying to him like, for example, well, you could do this and you could become this. And it's like, okay, no, he has to want that. He has to have that vision. It's a great distinction. You see, and I think that's where people, you know, get tripped up

and end up in a situations where... And to your point, the key is ask yourself as a woman are you going to be okay if this man never changes? Because you're placing a bet, all right. There's no guarantee you're going to win this bet. Are you going to be okay if this man never changes? If not, I would suggest... Because here's another angle we can look at.

and end up in a situations where... And to your point, the key is ask yourself as a woman are you going to be okay if this man never changes? Because you're placing a bet, all right. There's no guarantee you're going to win this bet. Are you going to be okay if this man never changes? If not, I would suggest... Because here's another angle we can look at.

Her presence, her love gave you confidence. But did that have to be given within the context of a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship? Exactly. So, if a woman really believes in a man but she knows if this man doesn't change I'm going to be really upset, all right. And I'm going to feel cheated. Then all we're saying is maybe don't cross romantic lines yet

Her presence, her love gave you confidence. But did that have to be given within the context of a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship? Exactly. So, if a woman really believes in a man but she knows if this man doesn't change I'm going to be really upset, all right. And I'm going to feel cheated. Then all we're saying is maybe don't cross romantic lines yet

let that man know because I'll tell you this, if he has it in him and he has a desire for that woman and that woman said to him listen, I think you can make a great partner I would love to be with you but I need you to get to a more stable place first. If he's serious that's his motivation right there.

let that man know because I'll tell you this, if he has it in him and he has a desire for that woman and that woman said to him listen, I think you can make a great partner I would love to be with you but I need you to get to a more stable place first. If he's serious that's his motivation right there.

That will get him because as long as he knows oh, I can get the woman of my dreams, the woman I love if I put in the work okay, I'm going to do that. But by getting with him while in the process For a lot of men they only do to acquire. And if they already acquired then what am I going to do anything for?

That will get him because as long as he knows oh, I can get the woman of my dreams, the woman I love if I put in the work okay, I'm going to do that. But by getting with him while in the process For a lot of men they only do to acquire. And if they already acquired then what am I going to do anything for?

Why do I need to go work and all this extra stuff and or try to do more to make more money when I'm getting fed, I'm getting sex, I have a roof over my head. For a lot of men that is enough. There's only a smaller segment of men who you can give them all those things and it doesn't matter they have to do more it's just who they are.

Why do I need to go work and all this extra stuff and or try to do more to make more money when I'm getting fed, I'm getting sex, I have a roof over my head. For a lot of men that is enough. There's only a smaller segment of men who you can give them all those things and it doesn't matter they have to do more it's just who they are.

So, that has to be acknowledged and recognized when a woman is going to determine if she's going to actually engage in that kind of a dynamic.

So, that has to be acknowledged and recognized when a woman is going to determine if she's going to actually engage in that kind of a dynamic.

Is it fair? It is unfair, completely unfair. One of the big problems that exists is that a lot of women are not being told accurate stories of other women's dating experiences. Now, that isn't to say there aren't genuinely bad men out there, bad experiences and all that.

Is it fair? It is unfair, completely unfair. One of the big problems that exists is that a lot of women are not being told accurate stories of other women's dating experiences. Now, that isn't to say there aren't genuinely bad men out there, bad experiences and all that.

But what they fail to understand is that whether it be their friends, their family, whoever, when she goes on that date or she's in that relationship and things go wrong, she may leave out parts of what she did to contribute to the problem. And so, you're hearing this very one-sided view of the situation which is going to almost always paint the man in the negative light.

But what they fail to understand is that whether it be their friends, their family, whoever, when she goes on that date or she's in that relationship and things go wrong, she may leave out parts of what she did to contribute to the problem. And so, you're hearing this very one-sided view of the situation which is going to almost always paint the man in the negative light.