Stephan Speaks

She's probably in most cases looking for a man who is also ambitious, right. And this is where the disconnect comes because now it's kind of like the whole discussion of having two alphas in a relationship, two very strong personalities. There's no real balance there, okay. And for a lot of women

She's probably in most cases looking for a man who is also ambitious, right. And this is where the disconnect comes because now it's kind of like the whole discussion of having two alphas in a relationship, two very strong personalities. There's no real balance there, okay. And for a lot of women

what they're overlooking is what most men value or at least most men who are ambitious themselves, who do take care of themselves, they're looking for a compliment to that. They're looking for someone who can love them, pour into them, you know, contribute to a peaceful environment. he doesn't care about your money and your ambition as much, right.

what they're overlooking is what most men value or at least most men who are ambitious themselves, who do take care of themselves, they're looking for a compliment to that. They're looking for someone who can love them, pour into them, you know, contribute to a peaceful environment. he doesn't care about your money and your ambition as much, right.

But the guy who doesn't have for himself well, he's going to put more value on those things and it becomes this mismatch of individuals. So, a lot of these women who are ambitious it's not that they cannot get a man they're struggling to get the type of men they desire. All right and again, as I said earlier about how we focus on the desirables not the non-desirables.

But the guy who doesn't have for himself well, he's going to put more value on those things and it becomes this mismatch of individuals. So, a lot of these women who are ambitious it's not that they cannot get a man they're struggling to get the type of men they desire. All right and again, as I said earlier about how we focus on the desirables not the non-desirables.

When she says I can't meet anyone she's not literally saying I can't meet any man. She's just saying I'm not meeting anyone I actually like and want to pay attention to. So, in her mind I'm not meeting anyone you see. And so, there is a problem with a lot of men and I do think again, I would pose the question to a lot of women Are you going to be happy in the long run in that kind of a dynamic?

When she says I can't meet anyone she's not literally saying I can't meet any man. She's just saying I'm not meeting anyone I actually like and want to pay attention to. So, in her mind I'm not meeting anyone you see. And so, there is a problem with a lot of men and I do think again, I would pose the question to a lot of women Are you going to be happy in the long run in that kind of a dynamic?

Yes, that's the question. You know, is that really going to serve you or is that a right now in the moment thing? Because there's a lot of ambitious women who accepted maybe the less ambitious man, right? Because he figured, all right, well, he loves me. You know, he'll be there for me. I can trust this relationship. But then over time, she becomes frustrated with him.

Yes, that's the question. You know, is that really going to serve you or is that a right now in the moment thing? Because there's a lot of ambitious women who accepted maybe the less ambitious man, right? Because he figured, all right, well, he loves me. You know, he'll be there for me. I can trust this relationship. But then over time, she becomes frustrated with him.

You know, he doesn't take initiative. He's not as assertive as she wants him to be. He doesn't exude the same level of masculine energy that she desires for a man. And that will take its toll. And eventually it will probably blow up the whole relationship.

You know, he doesn't take initiative. He's not as assertive as she wants him to be. He doesn't exude the same level of masculine energy that she desires for a man. And that will take its toll. And eventually it will probably blow up the whole relationship.

Absolutely. But I think what has to be considered in using your situation as an example is that She didn't have to create ambition in you, she activated it, she energized it, okay. But it already existed within you.

Absolutely. But I think what has to be considered in using your situation as an example is that She didn't have to create ambition in you, she activated it, she energized it, okay. But it already existed within you.

So, for her it was very fortunate that she found a man who actually wanted to make more of himself. The unfortunate reality is that there's a lot of women who will take that approach with a man and believe that okay, if I love on him and point into him this will get him to step up and it's like no, he does not have it in him. And there's nothing you can do like...

So, for her it was very fortunate that she found a man who actually wanted to make more of himself. The unfortunate reality is that there's a lot of women who will take that approach with a man and believe that okay, if I love on him and point into him this will get him to step up and it's like no, he does not have it in him. And there's nothing you can do like...

when you think about it anyone who's successful has had experiences where whether it be friends, family, or random people where you've tried to help someone and no matter what you gave you could give them the whole blueprint, right. You can fund them, you can do everything and it still becomes nothing. Because it's just not in them. We cannot make them into something that they're not.

when you think about it anyone who's successful has had experiences where whether it be friends, family, or random people where you've tried to help someone and no matter what you gave you could give them the whole blueprint, right. You can fund them, you can do everything and it still becomes nothing. Because it's just not in them. We cannot make them into something that they're not.

So, I think it's important that for a woman if you're going to take that approach you have to do your due diligence of understanding who he is as a man, his true character. Are you projecting a fantasy and a potential on him that doesn't really exist, all right. What does he see in himself?

So, I think it's important that for a woman if you're going to take that approach you have to do your due diligence of understanding who he is as a man, his true character. Are you projecting a fantasy and a potential on him that doesn't really exist, all right. What does he see in himself?