Stephan Speaks

And the unfortunate reality is that and I want women to understand you know, again, I recognize that there are some women who genuinely are wired that way, all right. They... It feeds them the same way it feeds us it feeds them to be achieving to be doing stuff and I'm a firm believer I want women to walk in their truth whatever it is.

And the unfortunate reality is that and I want women to understand you know, again, I recognize that there are some women who genuinely are wired that way, all right. They... It feeds them the same way it feeds us it feeds them to be achieving to be doing stuff and I'm a firm believer I want women to walk in their truth whatever it is.

I will say though there's at least a segment, a large segment of those women who are ambitious out of necessity or even fear. They've been told never rely on a man, they've been told you have to take care of yourself, right. And so, with that they chase this career

I will say though there's at least a segment, a large segment of those women who are ambitious out of necessity or even fear. They've been told never rely on a man, they've been told you have to take care of yourself, right. And so, with that they chase this career

but it's actually at conflict with who they really are because deep inside they actually are the woman that values the family time more, being at the home and there's nothing wrong with that. But they have a segment of society telling them oh, you can't do that's wrong you need to be out there strong woman do your own thing.

but it's actually at conflict with who they really are because deep inside they actually are the woman that values the family time more, being at the home and there's nothing wrong with that. But they have a segment of society telling them oh, you can't do that's wrong you need to be out there strong woman do your own thing.

And so, those women will have a conflict in dating because they're already at conflict with themselves. Okay, and that has to be corrected. So, I always encourage women like listen, be real with yourself. There's a lot of women who they do the work that they do not because they love the work or having to work, but they love the lifestyle that affords them.

And so, those women will have a conflict in dating because they're already at conflict with themselves. Okay, and that has to be corrected. So, I always encourage women like listen, be real with yourself. There's a lot of women who they do the work that they do not because they love the work or having to work, but they love the lifestyle that affords them.

Okay, which is why for many of them whenever we have the conversation about why can't you date a man who's making less, right? Well, part of it is because in the back of her mind if she has a dream of one day being able to leave work she wants a man who can keep the lifestyle up, okay. And if he's making less well, then in her mind how will he be able to keep her lifestyle and maintain him?

Okay, which is why for many of them whenever we have the conversation about why can't you date a man who's making less, right? Well, part of it is because in the back of her mind if she has a dream of one day being able to leave work she wants a man who can keep the lifestyle up, okay. And if he's making less well, then in her mind how will he be able to keep her lifestyle and maintain him?

It's like no, he's got to be making as much or if not more so that I can keep this life that I've built for myself and I love very much. But again, I think it all starts with understanding okay, is this really who you are or not? Now, going back to the men I do think there is a struggle with a lot of men. One of the things that at least it comes to mind first for me the issue of low testosterone.

It's like no, he's got to be making as much or if not more so that I can keep this life that I've built for myself and I love very much. But again, I think it all starts with understanding okay, is this really who you are or not? Now, going back to the men I do think there is a struggle with a lot of men. One of the things that at least it comes to mind first for me the issue of low testosterone.

And so, I'm very passionate about the whole testosterone issue. And I do want men to understand it's deeper than just testosterone because sometimes we're so fix... Like, you could have high testosterone but if your cortisol levels are too high your body's not even processing the testosterone correctly. Your stress is blocking it.

And so, I'm very passionate about the whole testosterone issue. And I do want men to understand it's deeper than just testosterone because sometimes we're so fix... Like, you could have high testosterone but if your cortisol levels are too high your body's not even processing the testosterone correctly. Your stress is blocking it.

If your vitamin D is too low, if your B2... There's other things that can throw it off. So, don't think of life as let me just fix my testosterone and that's it. But that can be a huge game changer for a lot of men. So, if you have a man who's already... Because I always say some men are not lazy, they're unhealthy, all right.

If your vitamin D is too low, if your B2... There's other things that can throw it off. So, don't think of life as let me just fix my testosterone and that's it. But that can be a huge game changer for a lot of men. So, if you have a man who's already... Because I always say some men are not lazy, they're unhealthy, all right.

And if he is not healthy, he has low testosterone, his ability to handle, embrace, respect and ambitious is going to be a struggle in some ways. Well, it'll be a struggle in the sense that it might make him feel inadequate the way that she may carry herself with that ambition.

And if he is not healthy, he has low testosterone, his ability to handle, embrace, respect and ambitious is going to be a struggle in some ways. Well, it'll be a struggle in the sense that it might make him feel inadequate the way that she may carry herself with that ambition.

However, I would argue that some of those men, a lot of those men probably want the ambitious woman simply because for him I need somebody who can carry the load, okay. And if she's going to come into my life and stabilize me then great. The real problem is the ambitious woman does not want that man.

However, I would argue that some of those men, a lot of those men probably want the ambitious woman simply because for him I need somebody who can carry the load, okay. And if she's going to come into my life and stabilize me then great. The real problem is the ambitious woman does not want that man.