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It's ridiculous.

And so I, you know, she was very honest with what she wanted.

She didn't want to play games.

She wasn't looking for children.

She already had kids.

She was looking for somebody to travel with and be a partner in her life.

And she found them.

And it didn't happen right away, but it eventually happened.

And she found that type of person she was really looking for, which was great.

Narcissism is something we've talked about quite a bit on this show, actually.

I'll make sure that the team links in the notes, because I think that it's very complex, and I don't know that I could give you that expert answer in this.

Here's what I will say, though.

If you were already with somebody that was a narcissist, and I was as well, and I didn't even know the word then, I just knew this.

My nervous system was heightened constantly.

Every time he texts, I jumped.

Every time I said something, he said the opposite.

Every time I felt like I was doing something, it felt like it was for his approval.

And every time I felt like I had his approval, he pulled the rug out from under me.

All those things, and they're not limited to, are those type of traits you're looking for.

And I think that if you are being honest with yourself and you're dating somebody for even a few months, you're going to start to see some of those.