Tamsen Fadal

So when you see some of those little things and you're like, that didn't sit right, but I'll just brush that aside and give it an excuse and give it another excuse.

If you find yourself doing that.

That's a problem.

That's an issue.

That is noting that situation and hopefully you're not falling for him because you're seeing those little signs.

I think that if I look back on my relationship, I saw all those signs and I turned those red flags into pretty pink flags and I moved on because I wanted what I wanted.

In retrospect, I would never do that again.

I remember what they were very clearly.

I look for them.

I looked for them when I went out there dating.

I think you've got to really listen, like your body, you can feel that in your body that I didn't even know what the nervous system meant.

And now I really do.

Like if I get a phone call from somebody that, you know, is not quite sitting right with me, I can feel it all in my body.

And if you're feeling something like that, please don't ignore it.

Because I didn't even know what... Maybe even more.

Who knows?

Maybe more.

No, but those two people, and one was my, you know, ex, and one was somebody I dated right after, had the same thing.

Like, I was always performing for them.

I was always dancing for them.