Tamsen Fadal

No, but we want your personal experience.

No, I know, but I don't want to be like, oh, that guy's like every other guy.

So somebody at that age that has not ever been married before is one thing.

I guess what I would say is, has he been committed before?

And is he willing to be committed now?

And does he want a commitment?

Or is it like, well, we'll just see where it goes.

We'll see where it leads us.

We'll, you know, la-di-da.

I think I would just be aware of that.

I'm not really worried about what everybody else says.

However, I do think people close to you can see things that we can't see.

But I was with somebody who had never been married before, and I said to myself, oh my gosh, he just hasn't met the right person yet.

And the truth is, is to this day, he is now, I don't know, in his 60s, and he's never been married before.

So

He's probably never going to get married.

And I did spend a lot of time in my 30s lying to myself.

So I guess I would say this.

I would say I would have a real conversation, not be afraid of the conversation, not be afraid to ask where it stands, not beat around the bush and be afraid if you ask him a question that, you know, he's going to run away and it's going to be your fault.

Because somebody that wants to be there is not going to run away.