Tara Mohr

Yes.

And being warm and being respected and being connected to people is not the same as trying to get everyone to like you at every moment all the time, you know, which also we can let that go.

Yeah.

I think it's a real mean strategy that the inner critic uses to keep us in those comfort zones and out of our risk.

It's not what you're feeling.

No, because again, thinking about those different parts of ourselves, I would say all of us have that part that really wants to contribute something beautiful to this world, that wants to help others, that wants to find our little corner where we want to make something better and do it, that wants to use our gifts and wants to have a blast doing it.

And then there's this voice that comes in that's selfish, that's too much.

You're gonna be completely neglecting your family if you do that.

I think that's the voice in us that evokes a lot of guilt.

The other thing I'll say though, I'm a big fan of apologizing, not the over apologizing that women do and the like syrupy,

but actual accountability in our lives where we reflect on where did I miss the mark, which we sometimes feel real guilt around, and then proactive apologies.

And I'm a fan of it in leadership, on teams.

I think it's for our team, it's like one of the things that has helped us thrive and stay together long-term is people do make mistakes and they do say things they a little bit regret.

And when you have a culture where people proactively show up and apologize, you truly do that repair that needs to happen.

Because guilt will accumulate if you don't have a healthy practice of making amends in your life.

It's not that I'm a bad late mom guilt, you know, that stuff, but just that didn't feel quite right.

Yeah.

And I think when we do it right, I always say like apologizing is a peak life experience.

I think it's so good.

I think it's like one of the best things.