Tina Payne Bryson
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848 appearances
2 recordings
1 series
first heard Mar 2020
last heard May 2020
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When we respond to their complaining
Criticism.
It builds the mental model of
When I share what I'm thinking and feeling in the moment, it doesn't go so well for me.
So I probably shouldn't share it with them.
Because they criticize me.
Why would I want that?
So we can practice scene here by responding to their complaining by first shifting
how we think about it and go, Okay, this isn't necessarily complaining.
This is my kid.
It sounds like complaining and they are complaining, but what they're really doing is sharing how they're thinking and feeling in this moment.
I mean imagine if as an adult, if I told my husband, like, Oh my gosh, I've had so many Zoom sessions today, I'm so like my brain's so tired of that.
And if he were to say, You're lucky you even have a computer and you're lucky you even have a job and people who want to talk to you, like I would be so mad.
That would be such a horrible response.
And we do that to our kids all the time.
So instead we want them to have the mental model coming away.
by responding in those moments say, I know, it's it's hard to to do things the way we're doing 'em right now.
I miss friends too.
I'm so sorry that that we're having to go through this, but we're in it together.
If you respond like that instead, your kid's mental model walks away like
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