Tony Robbins

That part exists in them, but it's disidentified with because it wasn't in alignment with the model of the world that their parents wanted them to be.

But you unconsciously move towards it.

Like, why do you like certain people?

Unconsciously, you want more of that.

So in a relationship, you feel that attraction.

But the same things, you ever have seen this in a previous relationship?

The same things that you really liked in the relationship after a while piss you off?

Why does he always have to take the room?

Why can't he shut the hell up?

Why is he always loud?

Or why is she always thinking this?

The very things you like and the reason you don't like them anymore is because you've never claimed them for yourself.

So now what used to be something you liked and unconsciously you liked in them because it was a call for you to find that part of yourself.

If you don't find that part of yourself, now you start to despise it and that's where a lot of relationships end.

But there's some part of spontaneity that's in you that is not fully developed.

And if you don't appreciate and develop more in yourself, in the future you can be annoyed by his spontaneity.

No, I wish I was that way.

Like, I don't know.

But by the way, so at this stage in your life, you appreciate that.

Yeah.