Vanessa Marin

And anytime you get turned down for anything, it sucks.

But particularly when it's around something as intimate as sex, it really hurts.

And this is another area where I think we really get ourselves into a lot of trouble by thinking of sex as this purely physical act.

So a lot of women...

their partner will initiate.

And a lot of women will be kind of annoyed by it.

Like, oh, you want to have sex now?

Can't you say I'm in the middle of something?

We just had sex a couple of days ago, right?

It feels annoying.

And a lot of times that's because men are initiating in kind of annoying ways because it's so vulnerable.

So you guys do the like, you're trying to joke about it instead, trying to get a little plausible deniability.

So one of the classic ones is like,

the old boob honk.

He comes up behind her while she's washing the dishes and gives her a little honk honk.

And she's like, leave me alone.

Get off of me.

And he's, oh, I was just joking.

I was just messing around with you.

That wasn't trying to initiate.