Vanessa Marin

It's really important.

Just most of us don't know that information.

So again, it's nobody's fault.

Nobody's trying to do a bad job, but just understanding this is how it actually works.

That's a really important thing.

We also talk a lot in that chapter about how to give each other feedback during sex too.

That's another area that so many of us struggle with.

Like we don't know how to give feedback.

It feels really awkward to give feedback.

So we talk about our unique approach to it is what we call positively pleasurable feedback.

So any feedback that you want to give to your partner, frame it positively.

Nobody responds well to negative feedback, right?

Actually, this is funny.

So yesterday, I was trying to decide what outfit I was going to wear to this interview.

And so I posted on my stories.

I said, you know, here's outfit one, here's outfit two.

Please vote.

Tell me, which outfit do you think I should wear?

And I got a ton of DMs from people saying, like, outfit one is horrible.

You look terrible in that.