Victoria Vanstone
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first heard Aug 2026
last heard 7 Aug
Victoria Vanstone’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It's a constant social nightmare because you're never gonna know.
Even if someone thought you were a tosser on that night, even though you'd asked them about their recent tennis match or whatever it was, and you showed an interest in them, there's always a chance that that person is going to walk away and think, oh that fucking Dave, oh I don't know what he's talking about, blah, blah, blah.
And actually, I think I've spent a
Lot of my life sort of cas catastrophizing what people thought of me and spending far too much time mentally in this space where I think people think badly of me.
And it's not healthy.
It's not good for me.
And it's only now that's what's happening actually, is that I'm learning to have those boundaries.
And not care what people think because I can't control it, and to try and just be myself and hope that that's enough.
I mean
learning that it is enough is the journey, but I hope it's getting there.
And, you know, I really do find this stuff very, very difficult.
Actually, when I had a camping weekend years ago with a load of sober people, it was one of the first sober events I'd ever done.
And we all gathered on the first night.
Nobody knew each other
It was the first time meeting and we were all a bit nervous and we stood around.
And you could see everybody holding on to their fizzy water, just standing there going, Oh my fucking God, this is the most awkward thing I've ever experienced in my life.
And a lot of them had never, ever socialized without a drink before.
So it was a really a challenge.
And I sort of jumped in the middle of them, of course, because I felt like that was my job to do it, and just say, Look, everybody, this is this feeling that we're feeling now is exactly why we drank.
And let's push through it.
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