Vivian Tu

There are only a small handful of people that I would agree to be a bridesmaid for because I know how much it sucks.

Being a bridesmaid sucks.

You spend a bunch of money on a fugly dress that you're never going to be able to wear again, probably a fugly pair of shoes to match with it so you can all be in theme.

I've had some great friends, by the way, who have covered some of those costs and

who covered glam the day of whatever.

But like in many cases, the bride and groom don't cover that.

And if I'm paying for all of that, then I got to pay for the flight to wherever you're trying to get married because my friends are all scattered across the country and you know, heaven forbid, it's a destination wedding.

Then they've got to pay for hotel.

They've, you know, what are all of this stuff?

Like that is thousands of dollars.

And that's just the wedding, not to mention the engagement party, the bachelorette party, the bridal shower.

I didn't have an engagement party or bridal shower because I was like, this is so overkill.

I want to do this.

But like, it's expensive.

And if someone is going to make that ask of me.

I just ask myself, would I be comfortable Venmoing this person for five grand?

And if the answer is no, I'm not coming.

Or I'm not going to be a bridesmaid, at least.

I'll come be a guest at your wedding if it's fun and I like you.

I'll send a gift.