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But it's roughly, in many cases, a couple thousand dollars.

Yeah.

Don't start that way, actually.

So I would I would do it this way.

I would say something like.

Hey, Jean.

Absolutely love you.

So happy for you.

Congratulations on getting engaged.

I'm really excited for your big day.

I know you mentioned you wanted to have a bachelorette party in Cabo.

You were going to have the engagement party in New York.

And you were going to have a destination wedding in Portugal.

Great situation.

Can't wait for you to come, Vivian.

If I can be completely candid, I've got some big financial goals coming up.

And right now, these are my financial constraints.

My budget for all of this is X, Y, Z, whatever my budget might be.

And then I would say, that said, I don't want any of your special moments to be limited by me.

let me know what i should prioritize and or i'm happy to take a step back and support you in other ways so if you then come back and say hey it's actually not that deep to come to the engagement party it's mostly going to be family and my mom and dad are inviting a bunch of people you don't have to come great that saves me a flight that saves me a hotel now i have more budget for your bachelorette and your wedding