ADHD Mums

1. Season 4 Launch: Who Am I If I Stop Being In Service to Everyone in My Life?

27 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

The cafe moment. A waiter. Six seconds of blank silence. I've ordered for everyone in my life for 40 years and when someone asked what I wanted, there...

108. 'Supportive of What?' The Year a Friend Asked Me One Question and Broke the Season 3

25 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

The birthday of ADHD Mums came and went and I didn't celebrate. I'd spent a whole season demanding a seat at the table. By the end of it I was in bed,...

Sorry I'm Late. I Have ADHD.' My Friend Has ADHD Too. She's Never Late

20 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sorry I'm late. I have ADHD. So does my friend. She's sitting at the coffee shop halfway through her first one, watching me sweat through the door twe...

He'll Eat When He's Hungry.' Three Years Later My Son Was in Hospital on a Feeding Tube with Tracy Jewel Constable

18 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You take your child to the doctor. You tell them this isn't fussy, this isn't a phase. They tell you he'll grow out of it. Maybe it's his tonsils. May...

I'm Gentle With My Daughter for Ten Minutes. Then I Tell Myself to Stop Being Such a F*cking Embarrassment

13 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You can talk your daughter down in two minutes. Then you turn around and tell yourself to stop being such a f*cking embarrassment.Same brain. Same mum...

104. When a Neuroscientist Says iPads Cause ADHD — And You Wonder if You've Damaged Your Kids

11 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes the only thing that got you through the day was the iPad.And then you scrolled past a clip telling you screens are rewiring your kid's brain...

103: When You Say 'I Don't Mind, Whatever's Easy' for Mother's Day — And Spend Sunday Cleaning Up Your Own Gifts

06 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There's a script around Mother's Day that doesn't account for any of us.You're meant to want a candle, a coffee, a sleep-in, and to look visibly grate...

When You Stop Calling Your Friend and Start Talking to ChatGPT — And You're Not Sure What It's Costing You

04 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Half the conversations about AI are men in San Francisco telling you it'll change everything. The other half are people telling you it'll destroy the ...

101. When You Stop Your Meds for the Baby — And the Pram Rolls Across the Car Park

29 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast episode is not a replacement for individual medical advice and is general education only.You go to the mother's group, you don't put the ...

When You Know School Isn't Working — And You're Still Waiting for Permission to Leave

27 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You've spent more time on drop-offs, pickups and meetings this week than your kid has spent actually learning.You keep telling yourself the routine is...

When the Teacher Asks ‘What Can I Do to Help? But You Don’t Know What to Say

22 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If your child looks ‘fine’ at school… but falls apart the second they get home —this episode is for you.🧠 What We Cover in This Episode:Wha...

When School Feels Too Much Too Early — Expectation Creep Explained

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever sat in a school meetinghearing what’s ‘expected’…and thought‘this feels like too much… too early’ —this episode is fo...

98. When You Say ‘Can We Talk’ — And It Blows Up Straight Away

15 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever said‘can we just talk about something?’and it escalatesbefore you’ve even said the thing —this episode is for you.Because it’...

The Invisible Job: Being the One Who Holds Everything Together

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever stepped away for five minutes…come back…and everything has already escalated —this episode is for you.Because it’s not just t...

When You Keep Starting the Same Thing — And It Never Gets Finished

06 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we unpack the invisible load of trying to do something simple inside a day that won’t hold it. The interruptions, the split attenti...

When You Make Yourself the Joke — And It Turns Into ‘That’s Just Who I Am’

01 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we unpack the very real (and very common) experience of showing up already stretched… masking it with humour… and then internalis...

When a Group Chat Goes in Circles — And You Leave Feeling Like You’re the Problem

30 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever left a group chatreplaying everything you said…and everything you didn’t…and somehow landed on‘that felt off… was that me?’...

93. When You Remove the Stress — And Start Wondering What’s Wrong With You

25 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve removed the pressure…stepped back…even taken a break…and you still feel on edge — this episode is for you.Because this is the part...

92 The Teen They Called ‘The Problem’ — And What Changed in a Different School Setting

23 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a moment when you realise it’s not just a ‘bad term’ at school.It’s mornings that feel impossible.A child who won’t go.Or can’t ...

91. MYTH BUSTING: The Cost of ‘We Didn’t Have ADHD Back Then’

18 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is a moment at a family barbecue where your child isn’t sitting at the table.They’re walking.Talking.Eating on the move.And someone says it....

MYTH BUSTING: ‘We Didn’t Have ADHD When We Were Kids’

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Somewhere in almost every ADHD conversation, someone eventually says it.'There weren't kids like this when I was at school.'Or the slightly more polit...

When the Quiet Kids Are Struggling — But No One Notices

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

School systems are built to notice disruption.The child throwing chairs.The child refusing to sit down.The child who can't stay quiet.But there is ano...

When Being the ‘Good Student’ Is Actually Hurting Your Child

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You're told your child is doing great at school.'Wish I had more like her''No issues here.'But every afternoon at 3pm something else happens.The car d...

88. When Being Reasonable Gets You Nowhere at School

04 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve sent the emails.You’ve attended the meetings.You’ve tried to be calm, collaborative, reasonable.And nothing changes.Then suddenly somethi...

86. When Teachers Care — But the System Still Breaks Kids

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is a particular kind of confusion that happens when your child likes their teacher.If you’ve ever thought, ‘But she’s so lovely… why isn...

85. Is the Problem the Child — Or the Learning Plan?

25 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’re sitting in a meeting thinking you’re here to talk about support.There’s a plan. There are ‘adjustments’.And yet your child is still e...

84. When School Decides Your Child Is the Problem

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is a moment in some school meetings where the language changes.You walk in expecting support. Adjustments. Solutions.But then different words st...

When ADHD Becomes the Reason You Stop Trying...

18 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’re not lying on the couch saying ‘poor me.’You’re functioning. Packing lunches. Showing up. Holding it together.But quietly, inside, you’...

83. Overstimulated Before 7am — And No One Sees the Work

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel like they’re living inside a nervous system experiment.The kind where everything is technically ‘fine’…...

81. The Hidden Cost of Being the 'Good Girl' — How the Mental Load Became Ours

11 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for ADHD mums who have ever sat in a car park before an assessment and felt their whole nervous system start negotiating with the evid...

The Invisible Coordination Load: Why ADHD Mums Carry the Work Systems Won’t

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode sits right in the space where mental load, motherhood, and neurodivergence collide.It’s about the exhaustion that doesn’t come from d...

Why Does My Partner Keep Asking Me Questions When My Brain Is Full?

04 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel their nervous system spike over questions that look harmless on the surface. The kind of questions that arrive ...

78. Grieving the Child You Imagined — While Loving the One in Front of You with Dr Vanessa LaPointe

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is a kind of grief that mums are not supposed to name. It could be called ungrateful.. but a lot of us feel it. So it stays private, carried qui...

77. Turning the Car Around for the Hat — So It Must Be Me

28 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Responsibility’s already on me.If this tips, it’ll be because I waited too long.That’s how the morning starts.There’s a clock running. Shoes h...

76. Always Leaving First — The Social Cost for ADHD Mums

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You can feel it tipping before anyone else does.Everyone’s still chatting, still comfortable, and your body’s already tightening.You know if you s...

75. I Was Fine Until No One Replied

21 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode sits in a very specific moment: when nothing has technically happened, but your whole system reacts as if something has gone wrong.A mess...

74. You’re Not That Mum (Back to School Edition)

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re standing at the edge of a new school year already feeling tight, alert, or on edge — this episode is for you.Not because you’re anxiou...

73. Being Judged for Choosing Understanding Over Punishment

14 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too soft’ or that your child just needs firmer discipline — this episode is for you.Not because you need to...

72. You’re Not Behind — You Learned to Carry Responsibility Too Early

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’re not behind.And you’re not failing at life.If you wake up already tired — before anything has even happened — this episode explains why....

71. When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiet — What Your Body Is Doing and Why

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You’re not bad at relaxing.And you’re not doing rest wrong.If you’ve ever noticed yourself cleaning, tidying, or “finding something to do” i...

70. The Resolutions None of Us Actually Did

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You didn’t fail your New Year’s resolutions.You survived a year that was heavier than the plans you made for it.I asked the ADHD Mums community ho...

69. Too Exhausted to Be the Parent You Want to Be

26 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel like you’re failing at parenting because you’re constantly exhausted, flat, or shutting down — this episode is for you.This isn’t ...

68. 🎅 You’re Allowed to Be Done — Even at Christmas

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the calm you felt last Christmas wasn’t a fluke — but a clue?In this episode, Jane responds to a listener who accidentally lost her Christ...

67: The Xmas Yes That Should’ve Been a No

17 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I thought I was being polite.I thought I was keeping my options open.But somewhere between exhaustion, people-pleasing, and old survival habits, I aba...

66. Stop People-Pleasing This Christmas — The Year I Stopped Apologising for My Child

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

December brings presents… and pressure. Family dynamics get loud, expectations get heavier, and suddenly you’re managing everyone’s feelings and...

65. I’m the Magic of Christmas… But Apparently I’m Grumpy Too

10 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Silent rage at Christmas isn’t a personality flaw — it’s a nervous system collapse.In this episode, we unpack why ADHD mums hit overwhelm earlie...

64. Did Santa Just Take Credit for My Mental Breakdown?

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Christmas isn’t “cosy magic” for many ADHD mums — it’s a high-pressure, high-sensory, invisible-load marathon that no one else sees. In this...

63. The Year I’ve Decided Good Enough Is Enough

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If December already feels like you’re sprinting through wet concrete, this episode is your deep breath. Christmas asks ADHD mums to hold the magic a...

62. ADHD Meds & Kids: The Questions You're Too Afraid to Ask.

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Some days it feels like you need a medical degree just to parent a neurodivergent kid. The waitlists, the myths, the pressure to ‘get it right’ —...

61. Christmas Is the Finish Line — And ADHD Mums Are Crawling There

19 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re already running on caffeine and obligation — this one’s for you. December has a way of convincing ADHD mums that magic only counts if ...

60. No, You’re Not ‘Just Tired’ — 1 in 3 New Parents Are Barely Holding It Together

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever thought, 'I’m just tired,' but deep down you think it’s more than that — this conversation is for you. Perinatal Mental Health ...

59. The Red Pen Christmas: How to Stop Editing Yourself for Everyone Else

12 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve already cried in a shopping centre car park — you’re not alone.In this raw and funny ADHD Mums Christmas episode, Jane breaks down why...

58. Things That Look Like Bad Parenting But Are Actually Neurodivergence

10 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When a child melts down in public or refuses to eat, the world sees “bad behaviour.” But often, what looks like defiance or poor parenting is actu...

57. You’re Not Delusional — There’s Real Joy in Parenting a Neurodivergent Child

05 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger WarningThis episode includes mentions of intrusive thoughts and parental burnout. Please take care while listening.Episode OverviewHave you ev...

56. ADHD Meds & Kids. Your FAQ answered

03 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💊 Why do ADHD meds seem like a miracle one week… and stop working the next?If you’ve ever sat there wondering if you’re failing because the m...

55. CONFESSIONS: Things I Can’t Say at the Playground

29 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

For ADHD mums, school pickup isn’t chit chat — it’s performance. The smiles, the nods, the weather talk. On the outside you look friendly. On th...

54. Supplements for ND Kids: Calm Minds, Chaos Days, and What Actually Helps

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💊 They’ll sell you $60 gummies and promise calm — while your child is still wide awake at midnight.If you’ve ever handed over cash for gummie...

53. QUICK RESET: Self-Care Feels Nice. Self-Regulation Keeps You Alive.

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

🛁 Self-care feels nice… but self-regulation keeps you alive.Ever wondered why you feel calm after a walk but snap six minutes later? You’re not...

52. HORMONES: When HRT Isn’t Enough: Mum Rage & Perimenopause Explained

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚠️ Content Warning: This episode discusses hormonal rage, burnout, and emotional overload that may feel intense for some listeners.Some days I don...

51. CONFESSION: My Kid Didn’t Get Invited — And It Broke Both Our Hearts

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

🎂 The birthday invite never came — and the heartbreak broke us both. Because when your kid is excluded, you carry that wound too.In this raw conf...

50. HORMONES: When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout

13 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚠️ Content warning: This episode contains a brief discussion of suicidal ideation at 17mins.🚛 You survived pregnancy. You survived newborn chao...

49. QUICK RESET: “I’m Not Lazy — My House Just Doesn’t Have a Memory”

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

ADHD mums aren’t lazy — our homes just weren’t designed with our brains in mind. And no, piles aren’t proof of failure. In this episode, Jane ...

48. 'Not Disabled Enough?’ — The NDIS Changes Every Parent Needs to Hear

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

❌ “Not disabled enough.” ❌ “Not lifelong.”If you’ve ever been told your child is “not disabled enough” for support — you’re not ...

47. QUICK RESET: No, I can't meditate. I'm too busy disassociating.

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚠️ This episode discusses disassociation and trauma responses. Please listen with care and step away if needed🧘‍♀️ Meditation apps promis...

46. ARFID, Eating Disorders & the Neurodivergent Body: What We Got Wrong

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚠️ Content Warning This episode contains discussion of eating disorders, food restriction, and medical trauma, including misdiagnosis, inpatient t...

45. QUICK RESET: The biggest lie parents believe during school holidays? This is what everyone does

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

🤔 Are school holidays not what you imagined? You thought they’d be fun — but instead you’re tired, burnt out, and blaming yourself for not en...

44. Why bad behaviour is rarely bad at all (and how to respond instead)

22 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚡ Sticker charts, punishments, time-outs — most ADHD mums have tried them. And most of us have felt the gut-punch of guilt when they “don’t wo...

43. QUICK RESET:  Mum hack meal planning for when you're already burnt out.

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Meal planning was built for neurotypicals. That’s why it breaks ADHD mums.In this Quick Reset, Jane calls out the shame trap of “just get organise...

42. HORMONES: HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause: What No One’s Explaining to Women

15 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Night sweats, meltdowns, migraines, brain fog — and still dismissed as “mum stress.” For ADHD women, perimenopause isn’t weakness — it’s b...

41. CONFESSION: Mums wrote in anonymously… and what they shared wrecked me

10 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

⚠️ Content Warning : This episode contains heavy confessions. These themes may be triggering for listeners with trauma histories or postnatal depr...

40. HORMONES: The Perimenopause Crash – Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us About

08 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Perimenopause can feel like being blindsided by a hormonal crash no one prepared you for. Mood swings, rage, insomnia, and anxiety get dumped in the ‘...

39. CONFESSION: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread S*x?

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

‘Not tonight’ isn’t rejection — it’s survival. You can be deeply in love, feel safe and connected, and still feel absolutely no desire for s...

38. QUICK RESET: The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

School mornings feel like hostage negotiations — not routine. Missing shoes, weird sock meltdowns, vanishing library bags… and still the world say...

37. HORMONES: Histamine + Hormones – Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Doctors said anxiety. It turns out, for many ADHD mums, it’s actually hormones colliding with histamine.This episode kicks off our hormone mini-seri...

36. QUICK RESET: They said don't label him, so he suffered in silence

27 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

‘Don’t label her,’ they said. Now she cries herself to sleep, wondering why she’s too much. 💔That’s what happens when kids grow up differ...

35. You Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You keep the house running. You hold the emotions. You never say no. And still, part of you wonders if you’re doing enough.This solo episode isn’t...

34. Is It Social Anxiety — or Is It Autism

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You can’t ‘train’ a brain to enjoy being flooded with noise, light, smells, and chaos. You can only push it until it shuts down &mda...

33. CONFESSIONS: I Don’t Always Like Being a Parent

20 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes parenting feels like being pecked to death by tiny, unstable chickens. We love our kids fiercely — but that doesn’t mean we have...

32. QUICK RESET: My child is being bullied and I'm supposed to stay calm

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Your child comes home from school withdrawn, teary, or exploding in rage — and you’re expected to stay calm. Every cell in your body wants...

31. The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Surviving School Mornings Without Tears (Theirs or Yours)

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If school mornings in your house feel like a high-stakes obstacle course — socks missing, bags unpacked, emotions running high — this epis...

30. MY UPDATE: The Lipedema Op: The Invisible Illness You Weren’t Supposed to Notice

13 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve already heard MY UPDATE: What Happens When You Lose the Meds That Helped You Survive, you know Part 1 ended on the decision to have li...

29. MY UPDATE: What Happens When You Lose the Meds That Helped You Survive

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This isn’t just about medication. It’s about the pattern so many ADHD mums find themselves in — chasing answers, finding partial rel...

28. ADHD Meds, Access & Equity — What Families Need Policymakers to Hear

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

With Special Guest: NSW Minister for Mental Health, Rose Jackson 💬 “It shouldn’t cost thousands of dollars and 12 months on a waitlist ...

27. CONFESSIONS: 10 Things That Scare Me as an ADHD Mum

06 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode isn’t polished. It’s not another “mum guilt” talk with a tidy little bow. It’s a confession — 10 brut...

26. QUICK RESET: Why You Keep Waking at 3am — And It’s Not Just Anxiety

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever jolted awake at 3:11am spiralling over something you said in 2019 — you are not alone. This Quick Reset is for the mums lyi...

25. The Emotional Load of Raising Neurodivergent Girls and How to Lighten It

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the exhaustion you're carrying isn’t about your daughter’s needs — but about the systems stacked against her? In this fierce...

24.  QUICK RESET: The ADHD Myth of 'Just try Harder'

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever stood frozen in the kitchen, fully aware of what needs doing — and still couldn’t start — this episode is for y...

23. ADHD Meds Won’t Fix Everything – Now What?

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

With special guest: Jayde Couldewell from Beyond the Bump If you thought finally getting a diagnosis and trying meds would be the end of your cha...

22. QUICK RESET: Why self-care feels like another f*cking task

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If someone tells you to take a bubble bath one more time, you might scream. This Quick Reset is a no-filter, nervous-system-level rant for every ADHD ...

21. SCHOOL SERIES: The Future of Neurodivergent Education: What Needs to Change?

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever walked out of a school meeting wondering how it could all feel so wrong — this episode is for you. In the powerful final instalme...

20. SCHOOL SERIES: How to Choose a School That Won’t Break Your Kid (or You)

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're a neurodivergent parent staring down the impossible decision of where to send your child to school — this episode is for you. Forget t...

19. SCHOOL SERIES: When School Stops Feeling Safe

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If your child holds it together at school but falls apart at home — this episode is for you. In this raw and deeply validating conversation, Jan...

18. QUICK RESET:  Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If the words ‘let me know if you need anything’ make you panic instead of feel supported — this one’s for you. This Quick Rese...

17. QUICK RESET: How We Survive the 3–6PM Sh*t Show When Kids Are Coming Down Off Meds

07 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If your afternoons feel like a slow-motion train wreck — tears, yelling, slammed doors, and you hiding in the pantry with a chocolate bar &mdash...

16. QUICK RESET: No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve spent hours calling pharmacies, chasing down scripts, or fighting tears in front of your child’s school — this episode is ...

15. QUICK RESET: He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If your partner’s dreaming of overseas holidays while you’re barely surviving the playground — this episode is for you. This Quick R...

14. QUICK RESET: I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one is for the mums who cancel plans and then spiral into shame — not because you don’t care about your friends, but because you&rsqu...

13. SCHOOL SERIES: When They Just Don’t Get It: Navigating School with Neurotypical Parents

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one’s for every mum who’s watched the birthday party photos roll in and realised — again — your child wasn’t invite...

12. QUICK RESET: I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever found yourself raging over a sock battle, losing it over a tantrum, or feeling shame after snapping at your child — this ep...

11. SCHOOL SERIES: Reducing Stress Behaviours in the Classroom: Connection, Co-Regulation & Neuro-Aware Teaching

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever been told your child is ‘defiant’, ‘rude’, or ‘lazy’—this episode is for you. Tania War...