Ask Dr. Julie Hanks

Untitled EpisKevin Franke on Healing, Self-Trust, and Life After Ruby Franke, Jodi Hildebrandt, and 8 Passengersode

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast I sit down with Kevin Franke, former husband of Ruby Franke from the 8 Passengers family vl...

Surviving Mormonism's David Matheson - former LDS Conversion Therapist

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with David Matheson, a former LDS conversion therapist who is now openly gay. You may recognize David from episode 1 of Br...

Differentiation of Self: The Key to Wise Decision Making Regarding the LDS Church with Valerie Hamaker Episode

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This bonus episode is for anyone who is looking to better understand their personal relationship with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints....

How do I support my 13-year-old daughter who wants to stay in the LDS Church when I have left?

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I talk with Saren and answer the question “How do I support my 13-year-old daughter who wants to stay in the LDS Church when...

How do I decide on a career that I won’t later regret or wish I had taken a different path?

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I meet with Kellice and answer the question “How do I decide on a career that I won’t later regret or wish I had taken a different...

Bonus Episode: Stepping back from the LDS Church? How to do so in a Psychologically Healthy Way with Valerie Hamaker

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This bonus episode of the podcast is for anyone who is wanting to step back from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints while also protecting...

How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the LDS Church?

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Listen as I chat with Alyssa and answer the question “How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the ...

How do I pursue a high-powered career and still show up as the mom I want to be?

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast episode I sit down with Mallory and answer the question “How do I pursue a high-powered career and still show up as the mom I want t...

How can I better communicate to my husband that I’m not comfortable letting our child sleep at my in-laws’ house?

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Diana and answer the question “How can I better communicate to my husband that I’m not comfortable letting our child s...

How should I approach my daughter’s upcoming baptism when I don’t believe 8-year-olds are capable of making this choice?

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I chat with Christine and answer the question “How should I approach my daughter’s upcoming baptism when I don’t believe 8-year...

How can I stay engaged and active in the LDS Church as a working mom and a feminist?

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Sylvia and answer the question “How can I stay engaged and active in the LDS Church as a working mom and a feminist?” ...

How do I know if I want kids because I genuinely want them or because it’s always been expected of me?

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, I talk with Nicole and answer the question “How do I know if I want kids because I genuinely want them or because it’s alway...

How can I talk about boundaries with my narcissistic mother-in-law who turns everything into my fault?

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode I chat with Morgan and answer the question “How can I talk about boundaries with my narcissistic mother-in-law who turns everyt...

How do I learn to trust myself when I feel a disconnect between what I learn in therapy and what I hear at Church?

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, I talk with Kelly and answer the question “How do I learn to trust myself when I feel a disconnect between what I learn in the...

How can I be present when grief is always reminding me of what could have been?

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Listen as I talk with Jennifer and answer the question “How can I be present when grief is always reminding me of what could have been?“ Jennifer ...

Bonus Episode: How to Stay Connected to the LDS Church in a Psychologically Healthy Way with Valerie Hamaker

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This bonus episode of the podcast is for anyone who is wanting to stay in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints while also protecting their ...

Has my Latter-day Saint upbringing impacted my sexuality?

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast episode I talk with Mary and answer the question “Has my Latter-day Saint (LDS) upbringing impacted my sexuality?” I tell Mary tha...

What can I do to stop comparing myself to others and start fostering a growth mindset?

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Sarah and answer the question, “In the classroom, what techniques can I use to stop comparing myself to others and start...

How can I help my LGBTQ+ friends who are in pain because they feel like they don’t belong in the LDS Church?

02 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Ben Schilaty and answer the question “How can I help my LGBTQ+ friends who are in pain because they feel like they don’...

How do I have conversations with my husband about expectations for behavior at Church and contributing at home?

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Amanda and answer the question, “How do I talk with my husband about expectations for behavior at Church and contri...

How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother?

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with Emma and answer the question, “How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contr...

Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church?

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Beth and answer the question, “Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church?”...

Bonus: Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard Counting the Costs Pt 2.

17 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is part 2 of a 2-part interview with Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I recommend starting there..In ...

Bonus: Interview with Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard - On 'Counting the Cost' and Living Life in the Public Eye

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, we’re doing things a little different. Instead of hosting a guest and answering their qu...

How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I meet with Molly and answer the question, “How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?”...

Bonus: Empowering children to develop their own spirituality with Valerie Hamaker

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m joined by Valerie Hamaker from Latter Day Struggles Podcast. We discuss the importance of open dialogue with children, the case...

How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know now?

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I meet with Lianne and answer the question, “How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know...

How do I deal with fear of judgment in the Church?

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Jess and answer the question, “How do I deal with fear of judgment in the Church?” Jess especially worries about what ...

How do I prevent burnout as a working mom?

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with DJ and answer the question, “How do I prevent burnout as a working mom?” DJ is finishing up her maternity leave, and s...

How can I fall in love with my life again as a new mother?

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Angie and answer the question, “How can I fall in love with my life again as a new mother?” Angie sometimes feels grie...

How can I recognize a healthy romantic connection when I have one?

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Hannah and answer the question, “How can I recognize a healthy romantic connection when I have one?” Hannah describes ...

Bonus: The lasting impact of Benson's "To the Mothers in Zion" with Valerie Hamaker

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, I sat down with Valerie Hamaker of the Latter Day Struggles podcast and discussed the tal...

How can I find support for myself as my husband heals from a traumatic childhood?

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Cassie and answer the question “How can I find support for myself as my husband heals from a traumatic childhood?” Cas...

How do I validate myself in my struggles with secondary infertility?

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Moriah and answer the question “How do I validate myself in my struggles with secondary infertility?” Moriah has two ...

How do I share my doubts about the LDS Church with my family?

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Michelle and answer the question “How do I share my doubts about the LDS Church with my family?” Michelle’s parents ...

How do I come to terms with my last baby entering toddlerhood?

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Kelsey and answer the question, “How do I come to terms with my last baby entering toddlerhood?” She is feeling a sens...

How can I step away from a friendship without hurting my friend’s feelings?

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Sarah and answer the question “How can I step away from a friendship without hurting my friend’s feelings?” Sarah fe...

Bonus: “How do I claim my sexuality?” with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and Dr. Julie Hanks

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She answered the question, “How do I claim my sexuality?” Dr. Finlayson-Fife is ...

Bonus: Frequently Asked Questions Pt. 4

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week Richie joins me as I answer more of your most frequently asked questions. Listen to hear answers to questions like:Is my grief over infertil...

Do I have to end my friendship with a family member’s ex now that they are divorced?

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Heidi and answer the question “Do I have to end my friendship with a family member’s ex now that they are divorced?”...

What do I do when my friends and family won’t acknowledge my vulnerable faith deconstruction work?

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Valerie and answer the question “What do I do when my friends and family won’t acknowledge my vulnerable faith decons...

How can I build confidence and not let self-doubt hold me back from achieving my goals?

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Stacy and answer the question “How can I build confidence and not let self-doubt hold me back from achieving my goals?”...

Bonus: Frequently Asked Questions Pt. 3

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I’m excited to bring you another FAQ podcast episode! Join me as I sit down with Richie and answer more of your frequently asked questions. Tune in ...

Bonus: How Do I Stop Seeking Others’ Approval with Dr. Jen (March theme)

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Jennifer Douglas about March’s theme in the Dr. Julie Hanks Group Coaching Membership: How do I stop s...

Bonus: Overcoming Shame and Cultivating Body Love with Dr. Morgan Francis

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Morgan Francis about overcoming body shame and cultivating body love. Dr. Francis is a licensed therapi...

Is putting my spouse before my kids the best way to manage my parent/spouse relationships?

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jennifer is a mother of 1 and a widow who recently remarried. Growing up, she always felt that her parents had a great relationship because they put e...

Bonus: Frequently Asked Questions

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down with my podcast editor Richie and answer another round of your frequently asked questions. Listen to find an...

When my parents don’t respect my boundaries, how can I find a middle ground between putting up with it and shutting them out?

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Cyd and address the question “When my parents don’t respect my boundaries, how can I find a middle ground between put...

Why do I have such a hard time when I tell my kids no?

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Tamee and answer the question “Why do I have such a hard time when I tell my kids no?” Tamee shares that even though s...

Bonus: Self Love vs Selfishness with Chrissy Powers

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Chrissy Powers about the difference between self care and selfishness. Chrissy is an LMFT, creative ...

How can I find healing from the challenges of being a quadruplet?

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast episode, I talk with Natalie and address the question “How can I find healing from the challenges of being a quadruplet?” One of N...

Bonus Episode: FAQ Series

03 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down and answer eight of your most frequently asked questions. Listen to see how I answer questions like:I want a...

How do I handle the fear of temporal and eternal consequences if I leave the Church?

27 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk with Caitlin and answer the question “How do I handle the fear of temporal and eternal consequences if I leave the Church?”...

What can I do when my ex doesn’t want to co-parent?

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Benjamin and answer the question “What can I do when my ex doesn’t want to co-parent?” Benjamin shares that there a...

How can I better connect and communicate with my orthodox family now that I’ve left the LDS Church?

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Rebecca and answer the question “How can I better connect and communicate with my orthodox family now that I’ve left ...

Am I helping or enabling my adult child who suffers from mental illness?

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Jodie and answer the question “Am I helping or enabling my adult child who suffers from mental illness?” Jodie’s da...

How can I cope with the idea that my dad will always choose the Church over me?

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Shelby and answer the question “How can I cope with the idea that my dad will always choose the Church over me?” Shel...

How do I navigate a relationship with my difficult parents who do not support my gay son?

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with a mother and answer the question “How do I navigate a relationship with my difficult parents who do not support my gay ...

How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me?

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Rachel and address the question “How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have bee...

Bonus Episode: Conversations with Orthodox Parents with Sal Osborne

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Sal Osborne of @comingoutcoach about communicating with active LDS parents during a faith transition...

How can I work through my fear of rejection?

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the podcast I work with Sariah and address the question, “How can I work through my fear of rejection?”  Sariah grew up in an ...

What do I do when I see my mom favoring my sister-in-law who has a personality disorder?

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Kellie and address the question, “What do I do when I see my mom favoring my sister-in-law who has a personality disorder?”...

Bonus: Recovering from the Effects of Purity Culture with Dr. Camden

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Dr. Camden Morgante about recovering from the effects of purity culture. Dr. Camden is a psychologis...

How do I change the type of man I am attracted to?

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Heather and address the question, “How do I change the type of man I am attracted to?” Heather has noticed a pattern in h...

How do I have a relationship with my needy mother-in-law while needing to take care of my own family?

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Brittany and address the question, “How do I have a relationship with my needy mother-in-law while needing to take care...

Bonus: Developing Confidence in your Sexuality with Bat Sheva, Sex Therapist

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, who is an Orthodox Jewish therapist, writer, author, and speaker who specializes in se...

Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Amber and address the question, “Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?” Amber’s ex-h...

How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Madeline and address the question, “How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?” Madeline shares th...

How do I do hard things when they seem too hard to do?

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I coach Alison Faulkner, host of the Awesome with Alison podcast and author of You’re Already Awesome. Alison was getting ready to r...

My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go?

30 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Farrah and address her concern: “My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I sta...

How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Tanya and address the question, “How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while...

Bonus: Healing Your Inner Child with Tiffany Roe

16 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Tiffany Roe, mental health counselor and host of the Therapy Thoughts podcast. We discuss this month...

How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life?

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Dakota and address the question, “How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the strugg...

How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control?

02 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Kirsten and address the question, “How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control?” Ki...

How can I let go of mom guilt and create more partnership in my family?

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach entrepreneur and influencer Rachel Parcell (@rachparcell), owner of rachelparcell.com, and address the question “How can I ...

How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree?

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Michelle and address the question “How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree?” Michelle s...

Bonus Episode: Healing Aspirational Shame with Courtney Brown

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Courtney Brown, CEO of Cents of Style, about aspirational shame. Aspirational shame is the experienc...

How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother?

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Jane and address the question “How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother?” Jane has struggled interacting with...

Bonus Episode: 500k Podcast Celebration!

01 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This special podcast episode is a celebration of Ask Dr. Julie Hanks reaching half a million downloads. I hosted a live Q&A and answered questions...

How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with?

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Kacey and address the question “How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with?...

How can I reframe the way I think about my job?

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Tessa and address the question “How can I reframe the way I think about my job?” Growing up, Tessa was taught that findin...

Bonus: Making Peace With Your Body Q&A with Dr. Hanks

14 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode, I answer audience questions live about making peace with your body. I answer questions likeHow do you accept your body after we...

How can I initiate difficult conversations with non-receptive parents?

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Lauren and address the question “How can I initiate difficult conversations with non-receptive parents?” Lauren wants to ...

How do we change judgment culture? With Suzy Holman

31 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Suzy Holman and answer the question “How do we change judgment culture?” Suzie recently decided to stop wearing her garme...

Why is it hard for us to make a mutual decision about where to move?

24 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Amanda and address the question, “Why is it hard for us to make a mutual decision about where to move?” Amanda and her hu...

How can I support my kids in our blended family?

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Jessica Frew of the Husband In Law Podcast and address the question, “How can I support my children in our blended family?”...

Bonus Episode: Healing Mother-Daughter Relationships with Madeline Hanks

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I have a very special guest: my daughter Madeline Hanks. We have a vulnerable conversation about Madeline’s de...

How do I combat my need for control as a mother so I don’t hinder my child’s growth?

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Chelsea and address the question, “How do I combat my need for control as a mother so I don’t hinder my child’s growth?...

How can I support my partner when they are going through a difficult time?

26 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Ali and Andrew and address the question, “How can I support my partner when they are going through a difficult time?” Our...

Why don’t I do the things I know would be good for me?

19 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Felicia and address the question “Why don’t I do the things I know would be good for me?” Even though she knows self ca...

Bonus Episode: Setting Healthy Boundaries with Callings, Interviews, & Cultural Expectations with Rosie Card

12 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode, I meet with Rosie Card, owner and CEO of Q.Noor. We have a rich discussion about setting healthy boundaries and advocating for ...

What do I do when my husband and I disagree about Church topics?

05 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Keslie and address the question “What do I do when my husband and I disagree about Church topics? Keslie’s husband is a t...

How do I let go of others’ emotional burdens?

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Ali and address the question, “How do I let go of others’ emotional burdens?” Ali remembers taking on others’ burdens...

How can I re-find joy in motherhood while balancing the demands of caregiving?

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Sarah and address the question, “How can I re-find joy in motherhood while balancing the demands of caregiving?” It was i...

How can I support my husband with his mental health struggles while also holding boundaries for my mental health?

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Regan and address the question “How can I support my husband with his mental health struggles while also holding boundaries...

Bonus Episode: Sasha Piton

08 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with Sasha Piton (known on Instagram as @themormonhippie) and have a conversation about claiming personal a...

In a religion where families are everything, what if I don’t want a relationship with a sibling?

01 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Heather and address the question "In a religion where families are everything, what if I don’t want a relationship wit...

Bonus Episode: Communicating with Family about Faith Transitions with Simply Sadie Jane

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus podcast episode, I met with Sadie of Simply Sadie Jane. We spoke about how she has handled differences with family members in how she pr...

How do I reconcile my faith with abuse done in the name of righteousness?

15 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I coach Katelyn and address the question "How do I reconcile my faith with abuse done in the name of righteousness?" I tell...

How can I stop seeking my family’s approval of my life decisions?

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Melissa and addresses the question "How can I stop seeking my family’s approval of my life decisions?&...