Why Doesn't Rest Work for High Achievers? 5 Recovery Mistakes to Stop Making | Ep. 305
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Why do high‑achievers struggle to actually rest on a free weekend?
You finally get a weekend. No obligations, nothing scheduled. You've been looking forward to this for weeks. And then? You spend three hours reorganizing email folders or planning the next quarter. Or researching the most efficient way to rest. Y'all, high achievers don't just skip recovery, they optimize it. And that is the problem. The same skills that make us effective at work, the planning, the executing, the measuring progress. These are often the same skills that make rest not work. And this episode is all about that and about About what August actually asks of you, especially if you're a parent. Yeah. Let's do this. Welcome to Plan Goal Plan, a podcast where ambition meets balance. I'm Daniel McGeeu.
I'm a professor, speaker, mom, recovering overachiever, and self-leadership coach for high-achieving women. At the intersection of research, practice, and play, I discovered a path to planning and goal setting that's bold, balanced, and sustainable. Together, we'll reclaim your time, empower your goals, and create a life for you thrive at work and at home. Grab a pen. Let's get started. Okay, so the month of July was all about rest. We asked, What is rest actually? We talked about the burnout myths, we talked about seven different types of rest. We went a little bit deeper thinking about who are you when you're not performing? Why does stillness feel like a question rather than an answer? And then I got to talk with Dr.
An Sung. and had a wonderful conversation about time and rest and and being a parent. Today's episode, we're gonna talk about what it is that gets in the way, particularly for people like us, women that wanna do big things without losing ourselves. And just to kind of remind you, the second episode of this month, I asked you to think through Three different questions and whatever came up for you, I want you to revisit that and I want you to use that as material for today. So one of the things that kind of came into play for me is when I was really burnt out, when I was demoralized, when I kind of hit this moment where I was like, Oh my gosh, I've spent my whole adult life working towards tenure, I got it, so what, now what, all of that.
My initial response to that was okay, what are the habits that I need to create to optimize my way out of this? And I got obsessed about it. Like I read all these books about morning routines. I watched all the YouTube videos. I was trying on all these different journaling techniques. And I learned a lot. I'm glad that I had that period of I'll call it experimentation. But there is a lot of me that really just believed that I could optimize or have it Yeah. my way out of burnout. And one of the biggest mistakes that I see so many high achievers, women in particular, do when it comes to rest is that we treat rest and recovery like it's a project. So we schedule the rest the way that we schedule deliverables.
We block the time, we execute the task, we check the box. But the problem with this is that rest isn't a deliverable. And you can't will your nervous system into restoration on a timeline. So I've really learned that real self-leadership requires me to be able to discern when to move and when to stop. And how do I do that without abandoning myself? And I think that this is a skill that many of us weren't taught. So recovery isn't something that you probably do at your desk, and it's not something that is a response to urgency. So many of us will rest, but only when that's our only option. Option. I can't remember. There's like a good quotation. If you don't choose to rest, rest will choose you. I don't think I'm getting this quite right, but it is this idea that if you don't choose to rest and plan to rest, it's just gonna happen.
You're gonna get sick. Something's going to happen and that's gonna be what you're gonna have to do. The other mistake that I see high achievers, and it's one I've certainly done myself, is that we choose intensity over restoration. So I like big dramatic things. I'm like I'm a performance person. I like the drama, right?
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