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Chapter 1: Who is Devale Ellis and what are his credentials?
I was athletic. So I said, I'm going to play sports. I was going to play basketball. I was like, I'm going to be about 6'5". And then when you go to the doctor, right, you know the doctor tell you, oh, I'm looking at your palm. Your growth plays. You're about 6'5", buddy. Fucking lies.
I'm weak.
I stopped growing, and I said, you know what? I think football is it. Yeah. I'm not tall enough to play basketball. Went and got my degree and said, I'm going to focus on TV afterwards. Okay. It was that simple. Football was a means to an end. I enjoyed it. The NFL was great to me. I made a lot of money that I wouldn't have been able to make.
Right.
But it was just a plan to get me to TV film.
Because a lot of people don't have that. And I hate to see the story of like athletes when they leave the NFL and they just don't know what to do. I mean, they try to make the transition as you've made. A lot of them try to go to like TV, doing sports casting. But as you know, it's hard to talk on camera.
It's not easy. And the funny thing is I thought I was going to go into broadcasting first too. I got my degree in broadcast journalism. Yeah. Us too. You see, but that's why I knew that y'all was good.
We got degrees in this now. We went to school for this. We seasoned. We trained.
But that's why y'all good at what y'all doing.
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Chapter 2: How did Devale transition from the NFL to Hollywood?
I felt it. I said that to Tommy in jail, but it wasn't ghosts. It was me. It was you. It was me.
But why did he need a double for that, just out of curiosity?
That's what I was going to ask you.
I thought you was going to ask me. And why did he need a double walking through truth?
So this is what happened, all right? Y'all not going to shame me for my role, all right?
No, we're not.
I'm playing with y'all. We're just trying to ask.
We're just trying to figure it out.
The role didn't start out as a double.
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Chapter 3: What are the key pillars of a successful marriage?
Sometimes it just be triggering that they a fucking hater.
Yeah.
Sometimes people just be mean.
Sometimes people be mean. Sometimes people be haters.
Are they going to be sitting there taking it out on you?
But let me ask you a question. That says more about them than you, right?
True.
So why do you let that affect you?
You shouldn't. Because I'm sensitive, though. Everything gets to me. I'll be like, Drea, they said my hair was napping.
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Chapter 4: Why is the importance of the Black family emphasized?
A 19-year-old woman asking something like that on the first date. Because I would have been like, to be or not.
What are we going to do tonight?
You see what I'm saying?
That's a good woman. That's a good woman.
Come on.
You right. You right.
And the internet be telling you, don't be going out there and trying to be wifey off the first date because she was wifey off the first date. You got to be intentional.
Yeah. But also, it was to the right man, though. I'll agree. A lot of times, though, it's a lot of good women that meet up and they're doing the right things, but it's with the wrong man. So I think that is why a lot of times you hear women giving the advice of, don't do this, don't do that, because they did that and saw no results.
I agree. I will say this, though, Lex. I have a question. Now, I'm going to have a question. So many women talk about these bad men. Why do women choose bad men? You want me to give you the option? I really do want to know.
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Chapter 5: How do societal expectations affect relationships?
Period.
But then when men ask me, like, yo, dude, man, how you do this, how you do that? The first thing I ask them, do you want to be monogamous? Or do you think that being monogamous is the only way that you can be considered high-functioning? And they're just like... When I'm listening to these podcasts and they say monogamous men are high functioning.
And I said, bro, stop just listening to people and ask yourself what you really want out of life. You know what I'm saying? Like, we got to stop shaming people for not following the lifestyle we follow.
Yeah.
Monogamy works for me because DeVal knows that, you know what? I love women. Like, a lot. I do truly love women.
Yeah.
First thing I do, I look at you and I'm like, she's gorgeous. But I also know that if I'm not disciplined enough to control my urges and I'm attacking it, running after every woman, I don't have the ability to focus on the things that's going to help me provide for myself and my family. So monogamy works for me.
There are some men who can balance both and can chase skirts and chase money and make it. I would never tell that brother, you got to be monogamy or you're not high functioning. Man, get the fuck out of here. For example, like a 50 Cent or Floyd Mayweather. Both them brothers is doing way better than I am.
How I look telling them, well, you better be monogamous or you ain't going to make it in life. It's the same thing for women. We should never tell women, well, you better get married or you ain't going to make it in life. Oprah ain't never been married. She's one of the richest people in America.
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Chapter 6: What challenges do Black men face in relationships?
And do you feel like that's true? Like, with being married, do you feel like... For example, your success, is it attributed to a certain extent by your relationship and your marriage?
Yeah. The first thing I will say is that I wouldn't be the person I am if it wasn't for my wife and my partner.
Right.
When I was 18, 19 years old and I told Kadeen that I wanted to be an actor and I was going to use the NFL, She made my breakfasts. She did the stretches. When I separated my shoulder and I had to sleep sitting up.
From that dance.
She was sitting up.
That's why y'all. The brookers.
That's what it was? It was the shoulder. Lex, I ain't fucking with you, man. I hurt my shoulder playing football, okay?
Okay. I'm out here in these streets. I'm out here in these streets. Sure you did.
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Chapter 7: How does social media play a role in public perception?
Because if you have the black family and we continue to work together, what's going to happen to the wealth that happens in this country? It's going to go to who?
Black people.
Our kids. Yeah. How do you destroy the black wealth in this country? Destroy the black family. Make black women think that black men don't love them. Make black men think that black women don't respect them. That's all a fallacy. It's not true. The older I get, I'm 40 years old now. The more I realize that everything I've learned from mass media has been programmed by people who have an agenda.
And I'm not a conspiracy theorist.
I'm not, but it is what it is. You see what I'm saying? I mean, because I, oh, we had this conversation a while back with the guests that we had, and I can't remember, but we were basically talking about, like, government assistance and housing and things like that.
And they were saying how literally, like, if you are a struggling, you know, woman and you're on housing, you can't have a man in the house.
You can't. Purposefully. The minute you have a man in the house, they will take away your assistance. So you know what people started to do in the 70s? I know this because I have family who've been through this. Dad may be in the home. Common law marriage because men were just like, if I marry you, you can't get the assistance.
I also won't be there when the person who comes and checks on the house and the kids. So when they come by, they say, oh, there's a woman here by herself. The dad will be in the closet. The dad will be somewhere else. I have family members who I watch go through this. And they're like, you know the government coming by.
But the reason why they do that is to be able to get what they need from the government. And I hate to say this, but I'm going to say this. Matter of fact, I'm not going to say it because I'm not even going to give her name. But there is a talking head who always speaks about the black family and the black community.
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