How Do I Tell My Wife We Don’t Agree on Religion?
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Let me preface my question by saying I love... My wife and I, we've been married for 10 years. I love her just as much now as I ever did. Matter of fact, I tell people I won the wife lottery when I met this woman. Gross, Mark. I know, I know. We've been married 10 years. We're both in our mid-50s. She is 56. I'm 53. Okay. My question is... We differ on religion. I don't really like to bring it up with her. I guess I don't want to disappoint her with how I feel about religion. I don't use religion much. as much in my everyday life as she does. And she, I wouldn't say she tries to force her religion on me. She tries to, I guess, in her mind, she's trying to open my mind to religion more. And it kind of makes me feel uncomfortable, and I really don't want to tell her that, you know, I don't feel the same way about it as you do, because I really don't want to disappoint her or hurt her feelings.
Man, thanks for the call, dude. I think your willingness to be open is going to help a whole bunch of people because, A, you're not alone when it comes to the religion conversation, but I think there's something bigger at play here that's really important, okay? And that is you have this person who you love. In fact, you love talking about how much you love her. Yeah, exactly. And... You somehow have gotten the wires crossed in your mind that is telling the truth and being fully present with her is somehow going to lessen her or hurt her. Right.
Well... I grew up, I call it, I grew up as a part-time Catholic, you know, Easter and Christmas. Sure. You know, my father, he basically went just to socialize, basically. She grew up in a Pentecostal holiness, if that'll tell you anything.
Yeah.
So, yeah, she was, you know, jumped down the aisle speaking in tongues the whole nine yards, and, you know, we just don't see eye to eye on that stuff, and, you know, she'll start asking me questions about my faith or, you know, like getting baptized or have I, you know, brought God in my life? Have I made Jesus my, you know, savior? And I don't know how to answer that. And she'll like quiz me sometimes on theology, I guess. And it just kind of makes me feel uncomfortable. And I really don't know how to tell her, babe, you know, I, this isn't, you know, I guess I go along to get along right now.
Yeah.
If that makes any sense.
Yeah. There's an old, um, there's an old saying in counseling that is conflict deferred is conflict amplified. So here's what's coming. Here's what's coming for you. You're going to keep getting along to get along, going along to get along. And one day she's going to get the wrong kind of bananas, right?
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