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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. This is going to be one of the most eye-opening and transformative conversations you've ever heard on this podcast, and I am startled that it's about the clothing that you put on your body. Our expert today is going to tell you That fashion, clothing, the things that you already have in your closet are not things to dread.
They are tools that you can use to feel how you want to feel today, to embody the kind of person you want to become. You're going to learn a six-word sentence that you need to ask yourself every single morning before you walk into your closet. And it will fundamentally change how you think about yourself, how you think about the clothes that you have, and how you think about what's possible.
It's not about trends. It's not about fashion. It's not about colors. You don't even have to buy anything. This is about using what you have in your closet. To help you feel confident, energized, more powerful, protected. This is about changing the way you approach something. You have to do every day getting dressed and shifting it so that it empowers you.
And you're going to hear three women on our team who are part of this episode admit deeply personal things about how they feel and how they felt and how much they've changed since just trying this different way of getting dressed. And it's not about the physical. It's a mindset shift. It is simple. You can do it immediately and you will feel the impact every single day for the rest of your life.
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am thrilled that you're here. I'm thrilled that you're here because the episode today is going to blow your mind. It is always an honor to spend time with you and to be together. And if you're a new listener or you're here because someone shared this episode with you.
And this is one of those episodes that is going to spread around the world. It is that powerful, that eye-opening. Before we jump into it, I just want to take a moment and personally welcome you to the Mel Robbins Podcast family. I cannot wait for you to experience the conversation that you and I are going to have today with Erin Walsh. She's going to teach you one small shift
that will fundamentally change how you experience your day. And I'm gonna go on record and say, I've been doing this. It will change how you experience your life and what's possible. Erin Walsh is one of the most sought after celebrity stylists on the planet. She has styled some of the biggest names in Hollywood for red carpets, magazine covers, press tours, and defining career moments.
When someone needs to walk into a room and feel powerful, grounded, magnetic, or completely like the supernova version of themselves, Erin Walsh is the person they call. But what makes Erin extraordinary isn't just her eye for style. It's her philosophy. She believes getting dressed, it's not about trends.
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Chapter 2: What are the six words to ask yourself every morning?
It's not about labels. It's not about buying more things. It's about alignment. It's about who you are. It's about your identity and who you want to become. She is the best-selling author of the new book, The Art of Intentional Dressing. This year, she was named Stylist of the Year by Women's Wear Daily. And I got to know her because she saved me
when I got nominated for a Golden Globe and had to walk the red carpet for the first time.
That's where I first experienced the magic that is Aaron Walsh and this extraordinary philosophy, the art of intentional dressing, and six words that you're going to ask yourself every morning when you get dressed that will fundamentally change how you feel about yourself, how you see the clothes that are in your closet,
and how you imagine what is possible for you in this next chapter of your life. So please help me welcome the incredible Erin Walsh. Erin Walsh, welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast.
I have no words. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you.
Well, I'm thrilled that you came to snowy Vermont.
I love it.
And this is the first episode that we have taped here in the barn. Fireside chat. Fireside chat is right. Sexy unplugged. And... Well, you're going to help us be sexy if that's what we want to feel. We're going to try.
I want to start by asking you, how is my life going to be different if I take everything to heart that you're about to teach us today about using clothing as a way to embody the feeling that we want, the person we want to become? How's my life going to change?
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Chapter 3: How can clothing impact your confidence and mood?
You think that's possible based on changing how we get dressed in the morning?
I think like you become the change that you see as possible in yourself. You learn to wear the change you want to see in the world. And the whole thing with embodiment, like people, they look at clothes as a luxury and it's not. Like we all have to get dressed in the morning the same way we have to brush our teeth. Fashion is not something that's frivolous.
Most of us have to get dressed every day. So why would you not get intentional about it? Because it's a means to arm yourself to tell the story that you want to tell to the world of who you are every day. And how you spend your days is how you're remembered. And it's like the legacy you leave behind.
When you say fashion, what do you mean? Because when I look at my closet, I see clothing. I don't think fashion because I'm like, oh, well, that's red carpet. That's like fancy stuff. That's like not something I'd wear to work.
What do you mean when you say fashion? I mean fashion like tools. I may be a celebrity stylist or a fashion stylist, but I've never seen it that way. I see myself as a fashion therapist. I love clothes. I always have since I was a little kid. But fashion is the incidental part. The clothes are the choices. The clothes are the tools.
And how you put them together and the texture and the color and the silhouette and the proportion and ultimately how each piece makes you feel is the story. What you wear is the story. Fashion is like the icing on the cake. That's like the next level part, style.
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Chapter 4: Why do we often feel like we have nothing to wear?
But I don't think the point is... I think it's about learning to use fashion or what you wear as a tool to embody your best self that's possible to you.
So when you say fashion therapist, what are you teaching women to learn about themselves based on the decisions they're making when they open their closet in the morning and they decide what they're going to wear?
I, number one, I want women to like stop. I want them to take a pause and get clear on who they want to be and what their potential is. And I think like the therapy is, you can't do that without having compassion for yourself because you don't get to decide how you feel when you wake up in the morning.
And most days, we may feel anxious or tired or bloated or jet lagged or confused or not our best self. So how can you have compassion for yourself and take a pause to get clarity, to return back to who's that person I want to be and how do I want to feel? Like that's where the compassion comes in. And that's like self-therapy. That's self-care ultimately.
It's a pause that like those moments and those rituals, if you choose to bring them into your life every single day, they will change your life.
Even just taking a pause is a radical idea because I'll just say before meeting you, I would throw open the door to my closet and I don't pause. I throw open the door and I think the first thing I think is, okay, what am I going to wear? Right. Maybe I think about my day. And then I go through the process that I think a lot of us do of looking through a lot of things that probably don't fit me.
Yep. And I feel discouraged and overwhelmed because unlike you, I was not into style and fashion. I was like a granimals kid, you know, match the clothes, just buy them at Sears. Totally. And so it feels overwhelming. So I think even just that first piece, as you're listening or watching on YouTube, I want to make sure you know.
Mm-hmm.
there's a pause that you need to take because I don't think most of us do.
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Chapter 5: How can you make the most of your existing wardrobe?
How do I want to feel? Who do I want to be? How do I embody that person? What tools do I need at my disposal? I believe so much in this intersection of style and spirituality and style and wellness. And people think they're mutually exclusive. I'm not trying to prescribe any kind of spirituality or like something too woo-woo for people.
But the idea that like your insides connect to your outside is so fundamental and so foundational. And that is like so wildly transformative and empowering.
What are the layers of why this is so emotional? Oh, there's so many. Let's have them all because I think we all feel it. I look at all the money I've wasted on things I've never... I look at all the things I just can't get rid of. I look at the things that I bought for the person I wanted to be that never happened. There's so much wreckage in my closet. Totally. Totally.
Well, the thing is, it's such a vulnerable place. It's such a minefield. And there's so many metaphors to it. Like, I always think of someone's closet, like their insides, like their soul. And most people's closet, it's not who they are, who they want to be. It's all these people that they used to be. And that's why it's such a minefield for feeling not like your best self.
Because you see these jeans that used to fit when you were hot in your 20s, or you had a baby and your body is sort of, you don't relate to it anymore.
Yeah.
And as most women I know, it's not just like the postpartum or the perimenopausal or even aging in general. Our bodies change all the time. So it's not like there's ever, you know, like you need options. There's not something that's always going to work for you.
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Chapter 6: What mindset shifts are necessary for intentional dressing?
And that's where the compassion piece comes in. Like it or not, we tell the story of who we are every day by how you are, by every single choice you make, by how you talk to people, by how you enter a room. by your energy, by how you choose whether or not to embody your best self.
It's about knowing every single piece that is a part of your life, getting intentional with it and understanding why it resonates with you and how it can help be transformative and console you. So if you start by being intentional, you live more intentionally and you feel better. And that's the game changer.
I'm thinking about getting dressed in the exact opposite way. Tomorrow you're not.
No. No.
But I feel like there's an opportunity to lean in. Yeah. Because there is so much about life that we do on autopilot. 100%. And that we just kind of phone it in on. And common sense tells you, and as you're listening or watching, you've had this experience where... you intentionally choose to wear something different and you feel different.
You feel different. You're received differently. You move differently. You remember the day differently. And that changes what's possible for the next day. What I have found in doing this, like the whole idea of like dressing intentionally or thinking intentionally about your clothes,
You start there, it starts to affect every single area of your life and how you think about everything from a conversation you're having with a friend to like how you approach a meeting to how you talk to your kids.
So you styled all these mega celebrities. Yeah. And you also, though, talk about your aunts in the Midwest. Oh, my God. I love that. What is the through line and the truth about getting intentional that connects the dots from these mega celebrities all the way to your aunts in the Midwest to each and every one of us that is listening to you right now?
So when I wanted to make a book, it wasn't because I worked with famous people. It was because most women I ever met had this relationship with getting dressed that it made them feel bad about themselves. And I kept thinking, I'm like, well, this, that doesn't make sense. I know, I know like what you wear can be transforming and empowering and, and life changing.
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Chapter 7: How does intentional dressing help in different life stages?
A lot of us that have been looking at these images in magazines or looking at it on TV or online, we don't think about the fact that that is an example of somebody getting dressed intentionally for a very specific job.
Yes.
Versus kind of how we all throw on sweats and go through our day-to-day life and the same stuff that we wear all the time. And the idea of thinking intentionally...
about what you want to wear and you said this earlier and how that presents a certain version of you it it does people don't know what to buy but they think that buying is the solution and the solution again it starts with yourself i think it's like um well i don't know anything about fashion that's the luxury part like it's not for me like and they remove themselves from the game but like no like whether or not you like it you're in the game so you have to start you're in the game it's
You're in the game of being alive and being in the world. So aren't you going to want to walk as your most supernova self and not be afraid to be that person? What are you waiting for? This is something you talk about all the time. This is it.
It's not a dress rehearsal, but you've got to learn how to play the part, not just play it, but embody the part so you feel it of the person you want to be.
Erin, what's the one question you want people to ask themselves before they even open the door to the closet in the morning? How do I want to feel? How do I want to feel? Six words. Six words that we're going to ask ourselves every morning. You're about to open the closet. You're going to stop for a second and go, okay, how do I want to feel? How do I want to feel? That's your compass.
That's where you start. I'm pausing because I don't think anybody ever does that. I think we go, what should I wear? They jump. What fits?
Right. And then that starts the spiral of dysfunction.
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Chapter 8: What practical tips can help in decluttering your closet?
By you asking yourself, how do I want to feel? You're deciding that what you think and what you feel matters. And that's the lens to operate with the rest of the world. It's shifting it from a place of not good enough to ownership.
That how you feel and your energy matters.
Yeah.
I don't even consider it. Well, I consider how negative I feel.
Totally. And that matters because you need to see that person to embody that person. They go together. It's not like you leave her on the bed and then you go be your best self all day. They go together. You need to honor that person. And what I want to do is shift how women see their possibilities and their potential and what they see for themselves.
And that's why I see the closet as a portal to possibility.
There's a couple things that Aaron has already said that I'm just going to highlight because I do not want to have you step over it. And the first step to the art of intentional dressing is unlike how we currently open the closet and and then just move right in and do like, just like, okay, what am I going to wear today? And you're already going in the wrong direction.
We're just going to take a pause. And then you're going to second step, ask yourself those six words. How do I want to feel? And that right there shifts everything because now what you're looking at in terms of the clothes is is you're looking, you said your closet can become a portal of possibility. You are looking at your clothes as a tool to help you achieve that goal of how you want to feel.
And what's really cool about this method and these six words is every single day is different. Give us some examples of the breadth of how you might answer that question, how do I want to feel? So,
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