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What does it mean to let go of resentment?
Not every relationship in your life is going to work out. Not every person you come across is going to be your bestie, your BFF. You're going to have a streak because you talk so often. In fact, sometimes and more often than not, you will be faced with decisions in your life where you have to let people go.
How do emotions influence relationships?
Just like if you were their boss, you got to let them go, pack up your things, severance packages in the mail. Not really. But there are a lot of emotions naturally tied with relationships, and that goes for an intimate one. That goes for a friendship. That goes for a family member. It goes for literally every kind of relationship. There are always going to be emotions in it. It's never just business. It's always personal. It is. And what you find is oftentimes people hold on to resentment. They hold on to things that have happened to them in the past and they remember when somebody does them wrong. And it taints the way they view people. it automatically puts a spin, oftentimes negative, on what that person will do going forward.
And it sometimes seeps into every aspect of life. Like for example, if somebody gets done dirty by a boy that they were seeing, a girl that they were seeing, a partner they were seeing, in the future, if they have a relationship where there's a mutual split, Mutual split. But it's a cordial split. Their view of that person will be rooted. And I hope they keep messing up. And that isn't healthy. It's not. It's not good. And I've adopted a mindset that I want to share because I think this has given me so much peace of mind. I wish you well. I wish you well, fam! I really, I really do.
Why is it important to wish others well?
From the bottom of my heart, anybody who has done me dirty, who I feel like they misunderstood what I was trying to convey, they took something I said and put their own agenda on it, they disregarded my feelings when it came to a situation, I genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, I wish them well. I wish them well. Because it's no longer my worry. It's no longer within my bandwidth of operation as a human being. It is past me. That situation has come and gone. And the more time I spend feeling a type of way, the less time I have to focus on things that matter. And I find that there is something very freeing about not letting the actions of others affect how you view yourself and you view the world.
Because one person's actions do not speak for an entire group of people. They don't. They don't. It's on an individual basis. And it would be wrong to just assume because one person did you wrong that you will be done wrong by every person you come across. It's just, it's not the way to think. I get it, that's your natural tendency. All girls are the same, famously, juice world, rest in peace.
What is the freedom in not holding onto negative feelings?
But you live life on defense and then you don't open yourself up for the experiences that are good and the things that are good.
You just see the world through a negative lens. You see people through a negative lens.
How should we approach past wrongdoings?
And it's time to leave that. I wish you well. I wish you the best.
I genuinely do. Anybody who did me wrong, anybody who had bad intentions from the start and I just had rose-tinted glasses and I looked the other way, I wish you well. Because what, I'm going to wish you bad? Oh, I hope. No. No. No, I wish you well. I wish that maybe one day you will reflect on your actions and realize that you messed up. Maybe one day you will see that you were in the wrong or you contributed to the situation more than you thought. And this is a mirror to me because I hope that people that I have done wrong, they wish me well. Because maybe I really made a mistake and I feel sorry for it. And I want to apologize for it. But these ill intentions and these kind of harbored feelings of like distaste towards people, it doesn't do anything for you. I don't think you should forget that it happened, and I think you should realize that. And it's okay to feel angry and upset. You should feel those emotions. I'm not telling you to be a drone and just be completely, you know, mindless.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
What does it mean to let go of resentment?
0:00–0:22
2
How do emotions influence relationships?
0:22–2:15
3
Why is it important to wish others well?
2:15–3:45
4
How can negative experiences affect your outlook?
3:45
5
What is the freedom in not holding onto negative feelings?
3:17–4:14
6
How should we approach past wrongdoings?
4:14–12:44