no one prepares you for losing someone
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What does it feel like to lose someone?
Nobody prepares you for the feeling of losing somebody. Nobody prepares you for the weirdness that is that person was once here and now they are not and how you deal with that. And I still don't really know how to deal with it. It's just something that you deal with. Zerky Show, how we doing? I just want to make a quick announcement. This video that you're about to watch is not happy.
Why is grief such a hard topic to discuss?
It is a very hard topic to talk about sometimes. It is about grief, and there are some tears shed. If that's something that you don't really want to watch, I don't blame you. I have plenty of other videos that are more happy. This one I needed to make. I felt compelled to make it. And if you are going through something, maybe this is the video for you. But either way, I love you. I hope you're doing good. And just wanted to give a fair warning. Okay. my grandfather passed away from cancer when I was in college it was my first year being at University of Georgia I remember I was in my apartment I woke up and in the family group chat was a notification that I knew was coming I knew that he was not in a good state but I just was hoping that I could I don't even know I was just hoping that maybe something could happen but
It was reading that notification, that message that said he had passed away in his sleep that really, really hit home. And I couldn't process it then. I had no idea how to process it. And it wasn't until I visited his grave last year for the first time that I just like let go of a lot. remember my grandfather he he went to his grave with his mom and his dad where he is buried now and he took me and like introduced me to them he talked to them and it was like I was like what is he doing why is he doing this you know But he was doing it like a sign of respect. And he was telling his parents about me. Like, hey, this is my grandson. And I'm very proud of him.
And this is going to be hard for me to talk about. But I just, I don't know. I want people to know about this. So, okay. Let's do this. So... He did that, and then when I visited his grave, I did the same thing. I had told him about what was going on in my life and that I was good. And then I was... And then I missed him.
How can memories help us cope with loss?
I really missed him because the last couple of months were really, really difficult. Because... Dang, man. Because he was not himself. He was very sick. And it was hard to see that. And it's weird. It's weird. And what I want to tell somebody who... is maybe in the beginning of grief, and it's not just losing a family member, maybe it's losing somebody in a relationship that meant a lot to you, is that grief is weird. Grief is weird. It's weird because you do not forget that person. My grandfather is forever burned into my memory in the best way. And the memories that I have with him, I really cherish them. I really care about them. And I try to cope with this grief by living through my grandfather. Doing things that I know would...
symbolize him he always peeled potatoes when he would make mashed potatoes for dinner and I always peel my potatoes man I always think of him that way and he was always so kind and courteous and happy to see me and I he had this uplifting spirit he really he really messed with me he liked me you know so I really try to share that same love to a lot of other people in my life We can do everything that comes. Das Handwerk.
And grief is weird. It's weird. The moment after something like losing a partner, figuring out that you're not gonna be together, realizing that no longer the memories that you have are like, that's not gonna carry on, that that's cut. It is something that is so jarring And you will feel you will you will feel emotions about it. But I didn't feel emotional about my grandfather passing really away until I did something that reminded me of him. And I realized that that's no longer him as in like physically that is no longer him and that I felt kind of a responsibility to carry it on. And don't get me wrong, like, these are tears of, you know, of cope, I guess. And sometimes there aren't words for what you can feel.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What does it feel like to lose someone?
0:00–0:29
2
Why is grief such a hard topic to discuss?
0:29–3:10
3
How can memories help us cope with loss?
3:10–7:42
4
What are the different ways to process grief?
7:42–8:58
5
How does losing a loved one affect us emotionally?
8:58–10:12
6
Why is grief considered a personal journey?
10:12–11:51
7
What lessons can we learn from grief?
11:51–17:26