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Why is celebrating yourself important?
One of the reasons I think people burn out is they don't know when to admit they've done a good job. When to recognize, you know what, I'm chillin'. That was a good job on my end and I deserve to take a break and I deserve to get myself that $9 latte that I cannot justify the price of. Why? Because I need to celebrate myself. You need to celebrate yourself in your life. Do you know why?
How can waiting for others to celebrate you lead to burnout?
Because nobody, I promise you, nobody is going to do it for you. I have learned that with my birthday. I have made the conscious decision for the past two years to not celebrate my birthday. Just no. Why? Because it's like, well, that's what I tell myself, but it's actually because I think people will celebrate it for me and I will have a nice surprise party and that would be awesome. But guess what? Celebrating yourself is more important than that surprise party. It is more important than, you know, waiting. You have probably worked very hard recently. I don't know what it's been that you've done, but maybe you were studying for an exam and you did a great job. And instead of acknowledging that you did a great job on that exam or that you had a great date, you went on a date, you were anxious, the date went well, you had a great day where you were productive, instead of celebrating yourself, you punish yourself for it. You tell yourself, no, no, no, no, no. That should be the standard.
What are some ways to acknowledge your achievements?
That's how every day should be because you're comparing yourself to people that do that. That's their daily routine with the Saratoga water and rubbing a banana peel all over their face. And you think that's, that's what I should be doing. And you're confused as to why you don't make progress and why you're not able to continue the momentum of changing your life, your routines, your habits, your day to day. I don't know. Maybe it's the fact that you are not giving any kind of positive reaffirmation or positive feedback to you doing something good for yourself. Instead, you are actually giving yourself more work. And I get it, you know, the reward for hard work is more hard work. And there's a lot to be said about that, right? If you do not take just a minute to acknowledge, yo, that was sick that I did that. That was great that I got this opportunity and I aced it. Why would you work to get that opportunity again? Why? You wouldn't. And you won't. Celebrate yourself.
How can you reward yourself after hard work?
You've wanted to go on a trip to visit your friend that moved across the country. Okay, make that something that you're going to work towards. Make that something that will be the celebration to a very hard thing in your life. Maybe that's getting your taxes done and go. And go. You told yourself that you were going to buy some Air Maxes that your mom could never afford to buy you in middle school once you get that promotion at your job or once you graduate college. Buy them. Why do we suppress it? Why do we tell ourselves, you know what, no, no, no, I don't deserve this. It's like whatever, it's life. You worked so hard for that, you should be able to celebrate yourself. And it works in the other way too, because if we do those things too often, then it does not hit. And if we do not let ourselves struggle a little bit in our own lives to obtain, to get to a certain position where we can enjoy these things, they lose all meaning. If you eat ice cream every single day, it won't hit the same as if you eat ice cream once a month. Once a week, even.
Because you know, once, you know, you get that scoop in the waffle cone... And it's drizzled in chocolate sauce. It's got some sprinkles on it. Mmm. You know, once you get it in your hands, that you're celebrating yourself. Yeah, boy. Oh, yeah. But I think it's a really dangerous thing, man. I think that a lot of people... Do not recognize when they do a good job and when they have done well. It's the same thing as when people compliment you. I sometimes am like, really? You think I'm doing good? Like, I'm just doing me. I don't know. And if it's good, that's great. But it's kind of an odd thing. But I think it's important that you recognize it and also, geez, that you celebrate other people around you and you tell them.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
Why is celebrating yourself important?
0:00–0:28
2
How can waiting for others to celebrate you lead to burnout?
0:28–1:43
3
What are some ways to acknowledge your achievements?
1:43–3:02
4
How can you reward yourself after hard work?
3:02–5:21
5
Why is it essential to give positive affirmations to others?
5:21–6:36
6
How does self-celebration affect your motivation?
6:36–8:56
7
What are the consequences of not celebrating small wins?
8:56–15:27