what I wish someone told me when I was lost
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What should you do when you feel lost in life?
If you are tired and not knowing what to do with your life, I want to help you. I don't promise that I have the answers. But what I do promise is I'm going to give you a perspective that maybe can start the gears turning. Because the reality is nobody else can help you other than you. And that is probably the first thing you have to realize about being lost. The only way to get out of being lost is first acknowledge you are lost. There's an egotistical side of you that probably wants to hold on to whatever has been your personality for the last, I don't know, four, eight years of your life. Maybe for you that's been being a good student. Maybe for you that's been this idea that I'm just not worthy of anything.
It can go pretty deep. And this can be stuff that doesn't even really have anything to do with you. It could be something that your parents put on to you or maybe some friends early in your life did. But now you are getting this sense of sentience, which is funny, a funny word to describe it as. But you're having this reality check where you are like, whoa, nobody cares about me except me. What do I do?
How can acknowledging your feelings of being lost help you?
I've lived my life for other people. What do I do? And suddenly the panic buttons are starting to go off. The control room is just overflowing because you are now realizing that you are not in control or haven't been in control of this aircraft that has been piloting your life for the past four, eight years. And instead you have been on autopilot and the coordinates have been other people's ideas of who you are. You're lost. You can look at your internal GPS all you want. You can be like, no, I know I need to go to nursing school. Oh, no, no, no, no. I know that I'm going to become a pilot. I know that I'm going to work as a contractor. That's my destiny. But you also know deep down that that's not true.
I wasn't excited to go to college. It was fun.
What steps can you take to regain control of your life?
If my parents had not offered it, I don't think I would have gone. But in college, I had some rude awakenings. And that was that I did not want to do anything that I was studying. I just didn't want to. And I don't mean this to sound like I'm an anti-college guy. Because listen, if you want to figure yourself out, it's not a bad place to go. If you're going to go into debt, I don't know. Think about it at least. But the truth of the matter is... You have to realize that it's on you now. It's on you. And that's not me trying to put too much pressure on you. But if we are going to acknowledge that we are in a position that we don't want to be in, we have to acknowledge that we have to take accountability for it.
That's the first step of getting unlost. And the second thing that you should realize, and this is going to be kind of a
Why is it important to understand there is no fixed destination?
When I kind of realized this, I didn't really like it. But maybe you will do better than I did. There is no destination. And there never was. There is no place that you're supposed to go. The thing that you're supposed to do is realize how you want to move in your life. How do you want to fly? How do you want to soar? Where do you want to be? What do you want to look at? How do you want to spend your day to day? Because the title of being a doctor is great, but rarely do you think about the hundreds of hours of residency that you have to do and the sacrifice of not having a life for a good quarter of your life because you are dedicated to this goal. You realizing that you're lost is the most freeing thing you can do as a young individual because then it makes you ask the question, what do I want?
That will dictate everything else. And you can be as honest as you want to be.
How can you identify what you truly want in life?
That's the beauty of it. People think that like, well, think of the term of reality, but I'm not somebody that's going to judge you. If you tell me right now, I want to be famous. Cool. Cool. Why? Well, I want to make a lot of money. It's something that, you know, I never had growing up. So it'd be great to have that. What does a lot of money mean? Well, I mean, a lot of money would be like a Lamborghini, a Ferrari in the front yard. That'd be sick.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What should you do when you feel lost in life?
0:00–1:11
2
How can acknowledging your feelings of being lost help you?
1:11–2:08
3
What steps can you take to regain control of your life?
2:08–3:09
4
Why is it important to understand there is no fixed destination?
3:09–4:26
5
How can you identify what you truly want in life?
4:26–5:10
6
What role does self-reflection play in personal growth?
5:10–6:04
7
How can finding mentors assist you on your journey?
6:04–8:00
8
What practical steps can you take to initiate change?
8:00–24:12