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Do I even like this person?
Do I even like this person? There's a question not a lot of us ask. Usually in my personal life, when I've had someone give me attention, immediately I like them. I'm like, wait a minute. This person is validating me. This person is giving me attention, even though they're kind of rotten from the inside, but they like me. It must mean I should date them.
How to recognize red flags in dating?
But it isn't until we go on a few dates, it isn't until we actually begin to see the cracks of the facade that we realize something about them and about ourselves. You don't like them. You don't like them. And that is a weird thought to have because it is a guilty one. It is a guilty one after you go on a date to Chili's for $60 to realize, oh, I don't like this person. They are not very awesome to me. They might be beautiful to somebody else, but to me, I don't like them. But that isn't a wrong thought to have. It isn't a bad thought to have. What if I told you that you realizing that you don't like them actually will save you so much time. It will save you so much energy. I see it a lot with dating. Some people will go on a second, third, fourth, fifth date.
Even though they already know. They don't like them. Well, but maybe they're going to be different. Nope. Chances are they're not going to be very different. You can always give a second chance. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go on a second date or a third date. If you like your date and you like the time you spent together, you should do more of those things. But if you go on the first date, the second date, you hang out with them and you just get this feeling. You know the feeling I'm talking about, this like uncomfortability that just tenses your body and you're like, oh, that's cringe. Why did you just say that? I did not need to hear that. Or if they start talking about their ex that they haven't gotten over. Why are we still doing that?
Why are we still talking about our exes? If you're going on a date, leave your ex at home. It's over. You're going on a date for a reason. It's a new date with a new person. Yeah, you know, but my ex was like really important and they're like, no! Shut up. This person, that's who you're focused on. Because you can tell very quickly when someone isn't over their ex and it's just like a waste of time. And if someone isn't over their ex, you don't like them. I'll save the thought for you. You don't like them because they're not over their ex. And their ex is going to come back knocking. Hello, I'm back. Oh, my ex is single again. Bruh. You don't like them. What do you do?
What to do if you're not over your ex?
If you know you don't like them, you got to break it to them that you don't like them. You have to be honest. You have to tell him. Nah. Would you like to go on another date with me? Nah. Why? Because I'm not interested. I'm sorry. I don't want to pursue anything romantically with you. I just am not interested. And there's a difference between not liking somebody and just being nitpicky.
How to break it to someone that you don’t like them?
Because sometimes we become self-destructive and we just look for anything to not like somebody because we don't want to receive that love. And if that's the case, you got to look inward. Inward. Because you have to be open to receiving love and you have to love yourself first in order to get that, right? So if you don't want that, it's not time for you to date.
Why self-love is crucial before dating?
You got to do some work with yourself first in order to get on the market. But if it's like you want to have a relationship and this person is just not it, then they're not it. They're not it. But I feel guilty because my friend put me on. I mean, yeah, but in your life you will go on a lot of dates. You will meet a lot of people. And a lot of them will not fit. They will not fit.
How to deal with guilt after rejecting someone?
They will not be a good fit. And it is up to you to realize that you don't like them. And it is up to you to communicate that because... There are also so many people that keep these kind of feelings deep within them. And then when it's time to be honest, when it's time to take your relationship to the next level. Destruction. That's how you have exes that you don't talk to.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
Do I even like this person?
0:00–0:25
2
How to recognize red flags in dating?
0:25–3:34
3
Why is it important to be honest about your feelings?
3:34
4
What to do if you're not over your ex?
3:05–4:01
5
How to break it to someone that you don’t like them?
4:01–4:24
6
Why self-love is crucial before dating?
4:24–4:57
7
How to deal with guilt after rejecting someone?
4:57–11:13