why we don't believe in love

episode

the zurkie show 27 min 1 speaker 2 chapters transcribed

▲ 0

Transcript

jump: chapters · speakers · find in transcript

Transcript

Transcript generated automatically by AI and may contain errors.

Why is being in a relationship not as easy as it seems?

Host 0:00

It's not true. Being in a relationship, it's not easy. It's not easy. I don't know why I was led to believe that it would be. Why I was led to believe that it will be the most bliss in the entire world all the time. But I was lied to. And there's a good chance you're being lied to right now. Man, a lot of people think they want to be in a relationship, but the truth is, they just want to say that they are in a relationship. They have no idea the amount of work, the amount of, quite frankly, suffering that goes on sometimes when you have another person by your side. But... If you decide that you'd never want to be in a relationship, you never want to entertain the idea of sharing a life with somebody else, I'll warn you that you are probably missing out on one of the most beautiful experiences you can have as a human being. Because what's the point of any of this if not to share it with somebody? I know, okay, maybe the point of all this is to just exist.

Host 1:16

And yes, I mean, that's true too. But there is something so beautiful about having a cherry on top of your life sundae, and that being someone that you can share the good and the bad with. But if you want that, and you genuinely want that, not because you see it on here as something that seems cool, not because your friend is in one, but you want to show love to somebody else in your life, you have to be open. That's the secret that nobody will tell you. You have to be open. What does that even mean? It means that oftentimes we think that we need to build a caricature of the person that we want to attract into our lives. Now, it's okay to have standards. I mean, you should have that. And it's good to have values. That's also very important. You don't want to just spend your time with anybody. I mean, you could... Hey, you do you. You do you, girl.

Host 2:19

But if you want to make it count, then I think it's important that you have some kind of idea of what would be important to you. What are the attributes of a potential person that could, quite frankly, make life easier? And once you have that down... I think that you have a good basis for what you're looking for in a relationship, in a partner. But here's what you don't really understand yet. And I'm starting to learn that right now. You will not get perfect. You will not get the person that you dream about when you're falling asleep that, oh, this would be so nice if they did all of this. You won't get that. There's a good chance you won't. Because if you hold that glass box of expectations over your head, you won't be able to see true love.

Host 3:22

You won't be able to see it because that's not what it's about. Being open is recognizing that your partner might have a completely different backstory to the one that you want. You might meet them in a way that's completely opposite of what you have dreamed of. But if you allow it, everything will work out in a beautiful way and you will be able to, at the end of the day, share your joy with somebody else. And I think that we've lost track of the goal, man. I have been, like, indoctrinated into believing that my woman needs to be a certain way. I need to have this partner. This partner cannot have... They could have not been with anyone in this amount of time. Oh, my... I just, like, am looking for stats. I'm not even looking for character. I'm not even looking at how do they treat me. The stuff that matters. I don't know. Maybe that's... Me being a simp. But if that's being a simp. Then I'm sorry that's being alive. And I'm sick of. I'm sick of having. My emotions.

Host 4:48

Be shown as something bad. In the world. I have love. I want to give it. And if that makes me less of a man, so be it. And if it really makes you less of a man to be with a certain person that you know you love, so be it. Because I'm sorry if anyone can label you that. I don't think they're in any place to talk. Being open means that you don't judge. That you have an open mind. Even if you have insecurities, you listen. And you hear people out. Being open also means that you trust. You trust. Now it doesn't mean that you're naive. It doesn't mean that you trust everybody because, I'm sorry, not everybody can be trusted. But it means that You understand you will be uncomfortable. That a relationship will take so much work.